“Four to five days of chatting before you initiate the date is often the sweet spot. It gives you enough time to build that foundation of trust, but it's not so long that the momentum drops off.”
It's better to meet up sooner rather than later, says dating expert for Match Hayley Quinn. One to two weeks is the optimum about of time, according to Quinn, as it gives you time to get to know them, but not too much time that you overthink or the spark fizzles.
According to dating expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Anita Chlipala, you and a potential date should probably text for “two to three days, enough to establish safety but not enough time to know important things about them via text instead of in person.” She adds, “You want to meet in person as quickly ...
But in general, my answer to this question is: As soon as reasonably possible. In my case, that was three months. In yours, it might be three weeks or a year. Don't push things along too fast—there's no reason to jump on a plane to meet someone you met in a chat room last weekend.
There's a lot of debate over whether texting too much before a first date can be like a slow-acting poison to a potential relationship, and there's currently no consensus among relationship experts as to whether it is.
There is a chance that the person you're messaging is just nervous or not ready to meet you in person yet — and that can be OK, as long as they show their interest in you in other ways outside of text boxes. “Sometimes people are just nervous, so they keep in this weird virtual purgatory stage,” Boyd explains.
Try to meet in person within 17-23 days.
Studies show you have the best chances of happiness if you talk to someone online for about 3 weeks before you meet in person. Wait any longer, and reality might not match your expectations, leading to disappointment.
Reply within 30–60 minutes to play it a little cool.
While it's okay to reply later if you're actually busy, purposefully waiting to text somebody might feel disrespectful if you're available. If you had to make the person wait for more than an hour, offer them an apology and explain what kept you from messaging them.
It varies, but 1 to 3 texts per day is common.
The important part of a new relationship is getting to know each other in person.
Most talking stages last several weeks to 2 months. The talking stage is when you're getting to know someone and aren't exclusive or in a relationship yet. To get out of the talking stage, ask your crush to hang out in person, open up about your past and beliefs, and tell them how you feel.
Give them about a week to reach out.
Even though it's a little old-fashioned, some people will wait 3 days after a date to text you back to make you miss them more. Waiting any longer than a week could be a sign they're not interested, and it might be best to let the conversation die out.
But unless you are an extremely gifted raconteur, people who talk for more than roughly half minute at a time are boring and often perceived as too chatty. So the light turns yellow for the next 20 seconds— now the risk is increasing that the other person is beginning to lose interest or think you're long-winded.
You'll get some answers after a couple of months.
[but] I would say it's socially acceptable to talk about exclusivity after a couple of months," she told Insider. "You might do it before, maybe because the other person is totally on the same page, but I think give it a couple of months."
While texting all day, every day is certainly fun, especially in the beginning of a relationship, it's definitely not sustainable. This constant texting style can be an indicator of codependence rather than actual interest.
There's no one right answer to this question. In some circumstances, it might be appropriate to kiss on the first date, but it can depend on a variety of factors. For example, it can be important to consider how your date feels about it and whether you feel comfortable kissing someone that you're just getting to know.
An immediate spark can actually mean very little in the grand scheme of a relationship. In fact, sometimes a spark right off the bat can actually be "dangerous" or even a red flag, according to Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, Logan Ury, author of How to Not Die Alone.
But a guy gets a green flag when he isn't shy to regularly check in, to let you know he's thinking about you, and to ask you about whatever you've shared is happening in your life.
“Keep in mind that the second date should not take place more than two weeks after the first date. If the first date went exceptionally well, the best thing you can do is lock in a second date soon after. The following dates should all be spaced as close together as possible,” said Gordon.
The shortest messages get almost the best absolute response rate, and the reply rate actually goes down as messages approach extreme length. Apparently, after about 360 words (1800 characters), you start scaring people off.
The only rule for texting before a first date is to keep things simple. You can text as much or as little as you want. As long as the conversation is flowing and your date seems to be engaged, it's okay to continue texting. It's what you talk about in your texts that matter.
If a couple goes on one date a week, that's anywhere from 10 to 12 dates before they establish exclusivity, according to the survey. Say, schedules allow a couple to see each other more than once a week, that means it could even take 24 dates before exclusivity.