Give her a full body massage to relax her physically and mentally first, then really take your time exploring her body and finding out what she enjoys most. Once the pressure to hurry up is off, she may find it easier and quicker to reach orgasm.
Ephesians 5:25-33 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
Depression, anxiety, stress, and other mental health issues are all linked to lower libido, as are some antidepressants. If your wife is struggling with any mental health issues, she may be less interested in sex at the moment.
Compliment her on her looks, her dressing style, her smile, her eyes and everything else. Go beyond the physical attributes as well. Admire her for how she takes care of you and your family, how perfect she is for you, how you love the way she looks at you and handles every problem that arises.
Rage, disrespect, and emotional stonewalling may not be relationship-ending in and of themselves, but continuing patterns can wear people down. An inability or unwillingness to respect your partner's thoughts, beliefs, and feelings can destroy the trust and intimacy in any relationship.
Open a discussion about sexual desires and interests. Incorporate new activities in the bedroom; change your usual sexual routine and menu. That can range widely from doing something like wearing heels, putting on sexy music, trying new sexual positions, or having sex in a different part of the house, for example.
Ask her what she wants to do in the bedroom. Mix things up by trying something new and exciting to make her happy. Tell her often how much you enjoy being sexually intimate with her. Let her know that you are having the best sex of your life with her.
If your wife won't touch you, maybe something has changed. She may be experiencing depression or a lack of self-confidence, or maybe she feels like she's failing at this parenting thing. Even if it is difficult, do everything you can to put yourself in her shoes.
