What type of people do INFP's hate? Fake, manipulative, selfish people. From my own experience and my other INFP friends I know these tend to be the type of people we despise. And as you may already know, it's one mighty difficult task to become someone an INFP hates.
Prefacing an insult or critique by saying “don't take this personally” will only make INFPs feel belittled and irritated. INFPs are more than happy to get constructive criticism, but it needs to be done in a way that isn't patronizing. Zen habits has an amazing article on how to give constructive criticism kindly.
Shallow conversations, relationships, and activities turn INFPs off because they see them as a waste of time. People who focus more on appearances or material possessions than on substance and meaning are very unappealing to INFPs.
The INFP. INFPs are energized by working in accepting, open-minded environments. In turn, they feel drained by environments where there is conflict or hostility. Dealing with a lot of criticism or even just being around it plays a major toll on their psyche and cause them to “shut down” emotionally.
However, when they're unhealthy, INFPs become disillusioned or stuck in their ways. They may withdraw from the world and become isolated, or they may act out in destructive ways. Their idealism can turn into cynicism, and their values may become inflexible.
Inflexible or purposeless routine is also likely to bring a bit of stress to INFPs. They generally dislike strict schedules and prefer to make things up as they go. Being boxed into a routine may make them feel like they have no freedom, which will take away from their natural energy. INFPs also tend to dislike crowds.
Here are some of the things that make INFPs the angriest:
Arrogance. Phoniness or dishonesty. Insensitivity. Narrow-mindedness.
However, if INFPs can't escape the shallow plane quickly, they will lose interest in the relationship (even though they may continue being friendly to that person — we hate being rude).
One of the reasons why INFPs disappear or ghost people is because they need time to process what's going on in their heads before responding. INFPs are often deep thinkers who need quiet time alone to reflect on things that happened throughout the day.
Weaknesses that are typically associated with the INFP personality type include... Having difficulty accepting disappointment or failure. Taking criticism too personally. Struggling to share about themselves.
INFPs get embarrassed when they are put on the spot and are expected to react emotionally to something. This could involve something like being given a really exorbitant gift or having a surprise party thrown for them.
INFPs typically rely on intuition and are more focused on the big picture rather than the nitty-gritty details. They can be quite meticulous about things they really care about or projects they are working on but tend to ignore mundane or boring details.
INFPs may seem like feelers in disguise. They may not exude emotion and enthusiasm all the time, but they care deeply and intensely. They may not open up to most people about how they feel, what they feel, or what impacts them, but they know and that's what matters to them.
INFPs are sometimes referred to as “the Mediator,” “the Idealist,” “the Healer,” or “the Dreamer.” ESTJ is the opposite personality type of INFP.
INFPs are often very selective about who they share their innermost feelings with, so it may take them a long time to let a potential partner in. Once they're in a relationship they are empathetic, dedicated, and loyal.
INFPs are very trusting, to begin with. However, when they have been repeatedly hurt, it is the opposite – they become hypervigilant, paranoid, and have difficulty trusting anyone. They may become extremely suspicious of the world in order to protect themselves from being hurt again.
Much of the time, an INFP may seem completely happy with their own company, almost to the point of appearing antisocial. But INFPs, though definitely Introverts, do have a greater-than-average need for meaningful human connection.
#1 – They Appear Quiet and Distant
INFPs tend to be on the quiet side, but there's usually a whimsical warmth that shows up anyway. But when they are stressed and overwhelmed, they appear more distant, detached, and stoic. Usually they are absorbed in thoughts, trying to sort out how to handle what's plaguing them.
They can be overly-sensitive, quick to take offense, and insistent that only their views and values are valid. They can be resentful and isolative, only allowing people into their lives that adhere to the same ideals and values.
INFP: Ambiguphobia, AKA Fear of being misunderstood
INFPs are complex characters that often find themselves misunderstood. It's a feeling they know all too well, which is why their phobia is Ambiguphobia – the fear of being misunderstood.
INFP. INFPs under stress will typically be dominated by feelings of individualism, causing them to focus 100 percent on their own goals and needs. You'll likely want to work and complete projects alone and even avoid your friends and family.
INFPs are very sensitive to interpersonal tension and tend to avoid conflict. They have trouble letting go of hurts and often hold grudges. Because they see only the good in those they care about, they run the risk of being disillusioned and disappointed easily.
Although Mediators are warm and accepting, they don't always find it easy to make friends. This may be because superficial, casual relationships can leave these personalities feeling a bit empty.