The risk with constant criticism is that children will be more likely to redirect their behaviour to avoid that criticism, rather than because of a more intrinsic sense of the 'right' thing to do. This doesn't mean that we always lift them over their mistakes, and out of the way of discomfort.
Criticism blunts your child's sense of responsibility.
This distracts her from exploring the emotions that are directly associated with the consequences of her actions (such as regret and embarrassment). Instead, she'll project her anger onto you; i.e., she'll become preoccupied with how unfair you are.
In other words, criticism can impede children's neural responses to reward and punishment; resulting in their neural reactivity to gains being blunted, and to losses, being magnified. That is, children may feel losses more acutely and be unable to gauge the extent of successes lesser.
Constant criticism can fuel depression, anxiety, stress, and loneliness.
When we're criticized, it's easy to feel immediately defensive . Other reactions such as shock, embarrassment, hurt, fear, or crying are common too. After all, criticism implies that we've done something wrong, or that we're not meeting the performance levels we should.
Unfortunately, this can happen in the workplace, and it's called “destructive criticism.” It's a type of criticism that's intended to harm, undermine, or even destroy someone's creation, reputation, or self-esteem. It's when someone chews you out, mercilessly rips apart your idea, or publicly denigrates your abilities.
Narcissistic personality disorder.
People with this disorder present severely overly-inflated feelings of self-worth, grandness, and superiority over others. People with narcissistic personality disorder often exploit others who fail to admire them. They are overly sensitive to criticism, judgment, and defeat.
Criticism is futile it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.
Because our brains are protective of us, neuroscientists say they go out of their way to make sure we always feel like we're in the right---even when we're not. And when we receive criticism, our brain tries to protect us from the threat it perceives to our place in the social order of things.
Individuals that score high on perceived criticism show increased limbic reactivity and decreased cognitive regulatory prefrontal activity during the processing of criticism [13].
Shaming may make children feel like they cannot change. Rather than motivating them, it may make them feel like they aren't capable. And as a corollary and consequence… Shaming may make children feel bad about themselves.
The problem with criticism is that it challenges our sense of value. Criticism implies judgment and we all recoil from feeling judged.
There's another reason kids might overreact to criticism. They might have trouble with self-control, social skills, or managing emotions. Kids may also be hypersensitive when they're struggling with a skill. Do they seem to overreact when you comment on something related to reading or writing?
Women who grew up in a harsh environment with a critical mother experience lasting impacts. As an adult, they may struggle with anxiety, depression, unhealthy coping skills, and relationship problems. These women often have difficulty setting boundaries, making decisions, and maintaining relationships.
In psychology, criticizing is linked with ego-protection, which means that people criticize others because of a perceived personal weakness. I might criticize someone's house because of my exaggerated concerns and worries about my own feelings about being successful.
Don't dismiss her statements as silly or unimportant; be empathetic, instead. Help your child calm down and then listen to what she has to say. This will help her learn to remain in control of her feelings before they escalate or cause her to have a meltdown.
Emotionally intelligent people take the time to hear what's being said, and ask questions to make sure they understand the criticism fully. Your first instinct might be to immediately respond or defend yourself, but resist the urge; I life coach my clients to delay their response until they've gathered their thoughts.
Conflicts and fights often result from criticizing children. Criticism from parents can activate more brain activity in the emotional area of the brain than the thinking or social areas. Consequently, children can become easily emotional and reactive when they are criticized.
Some common synonyms of hypercritical are captious, carping, censorious, critical, and faultfinding. While all these words mean "inclined to look for and point out faults and defects," hypercritical suggests a tendency to judge by unreasonably strict standards. hypercritical disparagement of other people's work.
SHUTTING DOWN— If you find yourself shutting down, feeling hopeless or growing terribly depressed after you get feedback, you are probably deeply afraid of what the feedback means about your worth or your capacities as a person. You may feel out of ideas, and like you are unable to move forward.
Compared to experiencing constructive criticism, experiencing destructive criticism led to greater appraisals of intent to harm, blame, lowered trust, and anger.
Avoidant personality disorder is characterized by avoiding social situations or interactions that involve risk of rejection, criticism, or humiliation. People with avoidant personality disorder are afraid of being rejected, criticized, or embarrassed and thus avoid situations where they may experience such reactions.
Two of the traits that align with high sensitivity – Intuitive and Feeling – are indicative of the Diplomat Role. Of the four Diplomat personality types, Introverted Advocates (INFJs) and Mediators (INFPs) may be among the most likely to have HSP qualities.
They are setting limits on your disrespectful/inconsiderate behavior. They want you to understand how your actions are hurting or disadvantaging them. They are trying to bully or intimidate you so they can feel powerful. They are defending their own actions by pointing out that you also did some things wrong.