Another nice benefit: It can increase your attraction levels. Studies have shown that people rate others as more desirable if they embody compassionate traits — kindness, selflessness, mindfulness, empathy — to some degree.
Nice guys are usually seen as twice as attractive as men who present themselves as neutral, and eight times more attractive than the "jerks" in a dating profile.
Researchers asked college-aged students from 59 countries to rank the traits they found most important in a romantic partner. The researchers found that kindness was the most sought-after trait overall. Other top-ranking traits varied based on a person's sex and whether they were from Eastern or Western countries.
Studies have shown that confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have (Bale & Archer, 2013). Why? Because nothing is more attractive than someone who knows their worth, someone who feels comfortable in their skin and isn't afraid to take charge.
What women want in a man is faithfulness and dependability, a sense of humor, the ability to listen, and a sense of style. Only 13 percent of women cited muscular build as a factor in physical attractiveness. On the other hand, 66 percent of women said moral integrity will “make me quiver."
Symmetry: people whose faces are more symmetrical are generally considered more attractive. Averageness: faces that resemble others in the population tend to appear more attractive. Apparent health: people who look healthy, because of their skin and overall appearance are considered to have more attractive faces.
Evolutionary psychology studies note that physical features and dimensions that suggest youthfulness, physical health, mental and emotional well-being, strength, and fertility are considered physically attractive, since those are desirable qualities in a mate from a biological and reproductive standpoint.
Focusing on kindness instead of niceness is one way that you can be an ally. It is also a good way to challenge many of the social norms that lead to gender-based violence, including domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking.
People who are extroverted, sensing, thinking, and perceiving are likely to catch your eye, experts say. These people are fun and adventurous, and that spirit will lure you in and keep you wanting more.
Signs You're a Nice Person
You feel compassion and empathy for others. You give people genuine compliments. You listen to what other people have to say. You take responsibility for your mistakes.
That said, when asked what they're looking for in an ideal partner, women tend to cite nice-guy traits, like honesty, trustworthiness, and respectfulness. “In fact, they usually say they would actively avoid partners who are rude, disrespectful, or physically aggressive," she adds.
Nice Men (and Women) Can Seal the Deal
Men who scored higher on altruism also reported more sexual partners, and more casual hook-ups compared to female participants. If altruistic participants were in long-term relationships, those altruistic men and women said they had more sex over the last 30 days.
Silent men have a rich inner circle with intriguing feelings and thoughts, and this appears to act as a magnet between women. Women want to know what they are thinking, and they are unable to figure it out. This creates an intense aura around men and women are not able to break it down.
In a series of studies, Epley and Whitchurch showed that we see ourselves as better looking than we actually are. The researchers took pictures of study participants and, using a computerized procedure, produced more attractive and less attractive versions of those pictures.
Qualities Most People Find Attractive: Final Thoughts
Kindness; Honesty; Empathy; Humility.
A new study shows that 20% of people see you as more attractive than you do. When you look in the mirror, all you see is your appearance. When others look at you they see something different such as personality, kindness, intelligence, and sense of humor. All these factors make up a part of a person's overall beauty.
According to science, men find women more attractive when they are smart, intelligent, caring, confident, humorous, kind, independent, and supportive. Although these qualities may generally apply, what one man may find the most attractive may differ from another.
Research shows that humor and kindness are also characteristics which women find attractive in a man. Clear skin and masculine features are often cited as two physical characteristics which women find desirable in men.
Sexy people are physically as healthy and fit as they are able to be. They live in their bodies, holding them sacred and treating them with care. They are in touch with what energizes or depletes them, and they are devoted to keeping that balance. They love to move, to experience, to seek, and to explore.
Confidence, kindness, happiness, dignity and intelligence all ranked in the top five out of 19 attributes that people said make the opposite and same sex beautiful.