INFJs feel comfortable telling you things they otherwise would never say to another soul. If an INFJ gets personal with you about their emotions and life details, it means they like you and want you to be interested in them. They will share things about their life, family, and dreams.
When I surveyed INFJs about their flirting styles, more than anything, they expressed a deep desire to connect emotionally with someone they liked. They will be more emotionally open, express more of their deeper longings, and become more vulnerable with you if they like you.
Based on my research and my own experiences as an INFJ, I can give the following answer to this question: Yes, we INFJs usually know when someone likes us. But we're often in denial about it. INFJs tend to be really good at reading people and their emotions.
Kindness
As sensitive personalities, INFJs feel attracted to people who show kindness towards others. Extraverted Feeling is their auxiliary function, which means INFJs try to connect in a gentle way, and appreciate those who can do the same. Most INFJs also strive to make a positive impact on the world.
INFJs are known to be great at a lot of things. Flirting isn't one of them. Many INFJs feel uncomfortable or awkward flirting, at least the traditional way. We would rather have a deep conversation with someone than tell silly jokes or give them random compliments.
These introverts are hopeless romantics who tend to fall in love easily, but they also struggle to make the first move, flirt and show love once they're in a relationship. Because of their unique and rare personality type, INFJs tend to struggle in relationships, but that doesn't have to be the case.
Meaningful Connections
INFJs value deep and meaningful connections with others, and they thrive on authentic conversations. They deeply appreciate people who are genuine and sincere as well. Generally, they prefer small groups or one-on-one interactions where they can connect with others on a deeper level.
You attract an INFJ by listening to them; without trying to come up with solutions. Although advice can be very helpful at times, sometimes, listening intently really helps more. LIstening helps validate the emotions of people and show how attentive and aware you are. But also that you're present.
INFJs don't let go the way other people do. Other people can have unrequited crushes and move on as if they never happened. But if an INFJ has invested real emotions in someone who didn't return their love, that person becomes like a permanent scar.
INFJs are highly aware of what other people are feeling but are sometimes less aware of their own emotions. INFJs sometimes struggle to say no to other people's requests. They are so attuned to what other people are feeling that they fear causing disappointment or hurt feelings.
People are high-fiving, cheering, and otherwise overdoing it emotionally. As an INFJ you tend to feel out-of-your-element in these situations. You might attempt to cheer only to be taken aback by the awkward tension and self-consciousness in your voice.
How can you tell if an INFJ doesn't like you? Avoidance. If the INFJ refuses to be anywhere around you or walks away the moment they see you, that's a clear sign. It can be wearying for them internally, so they'll just want to avoid you.
INFJs are often highly principled and have high standards for their partners and themselves. They tend to value honesty, communication, and loyalty more than other personality types. Sometimes, these standards may feel unrealistic and difficult for partners to navigate.
Communication takes precedence – the idea being that with open and honest communication, almost any other challenge can be navigated – but other things that INFJs need to be satisfied in a relationship include respect (especially for their Ni insights), semi-regular expression of love/affirmation, willingness from ...
They'll Get to Know You Deeply
They want to know what motivates you, what your deepest fears are, and what makes you feel most alive. INFJs want to understand you on a soul level and will always be interested in learning more when they love you.
Really, when the time comes, all you have to do is speak plainly and from your heart. And don't mar your confession by saying anything that might cause your INFJ to doubt the sincerity of your feelings. A simple “I like you” or “I love you” will send our heart fluttering like you wouldn't believe.
If an INFJ gets personal with you about their emotions and life details, it means they like you and want you to be interested in them. They will share things about their life, family, and dreams. Once they can trust you, they will even express their deep emotions about people and situations.
They might get angry and defensive, scared of ever letting another person in. It's okay to feel those things, but it's not healthy to stay there long-term. The heartbreak doesn't have to define the rest of your life and your other relationships (I'm currently working on convincing myself of this).
At their best, INFJs make modest, reliable teammates, and allow others to take the lead. INFJs may undervalue their own needs, ideas, and contributions, acting overly shy and not taking credit when due. At their worst, INFJs can be excessively submissive, ineffectual, and too dependent on direction from others.