Most people prefer their partners to talk to them face-to-face or over the phone about this issue. However, if this is not possible, or you don't feel comfortable doing this, then think of using other methods such as email, SMS or a letter in the post. Remember, you don't have to explain everything to your partners.
It's best to do it face-to-face, absolutely. Pick a private place and say to them: “I've got something important to tell you”. Then, you might say you've just been to a doctor or you've just got some test results back and been told you have chlamydia or herpes or whatever.
Pick the right tone
Approach the conversation in a straightforward manner without being angry, frustrated, or upset. Pick a time when you won't be interrupted and a place where you can have a private conversation with your partner without others overhearing.
WHY? Your partner may also be infected and not know it and needs to get tested and treated. Left untreated, chlamydia and gonorrhea can cause serious health problems like PID, infertility, and potential deadly ectopic pregnancy. Also, without treatment, your partner might pass the STD back to you.
At least half of all men with chlamydia don't notice any symptoms. If they do get symptoms, the most common include: pain when urinating. white, cloudy or watery discharge from the tip of the penis.
Tell your ex directly:
You may not have had the best break up but your ex has the right to know, even if they only have a small chance of having the STI. Phoning, email or a face-to-face conversation, are the best ways to tell ex.
According to the court of law, you cannot file a lawsuit against someone for every type of STD or STI. But most severe STDs like HIV/AIDs let you sue someone and get compensation for the damages caused to your physical well-being and financial health.
Your partner may have chlamydia, too. Tell your recent sex partners, so they can get tested and treated. Avoid having sex until seven days after you've both started your treatment, so you don't re-infect each other.
Men rarely have health problems from chlamydia. The infection can cause a fever and pain in the tubes attached to the testicles. This can, in rare cases, lead to infertility. Untreated chlamydia may also increase your chances of getting or giving HIV.
Late-stage chlamydia refers to an infection that has spread to other parts of the body. For example, it may have spread to the cervix (cervicitis), testicular tubes (epididymitis), eyes (conjunctivitis), or throat (pharyngitis), causing inflammation and pain.
Symptoms can occur within 2-14 days after infection. However, a person may have chlamydia for months, or even years, without knowing it.
Using condoms for oral, anal or vaginal sex. Condoms, when used consistently and correctly, can reduce the risk of transmission of gonorrhea and chlamydia. Use a condom or latex barrier for oral sex on a vagina or anus.
How did I get chlamydia if I didn't cheat? You can get chlamydia if your partner had vaginal, oral or anal sex with someone who was infected and then had sex with you.
You can't transmit chlamydia through kissing, sharing drinking glasses, or hugging. However, you can transmit the disease: through vaginal, oral, or anal sex without a condom or other barrier method with someone who has the disease.
Myth: You can't catch chlamydia if you've only had sex once. Fact: If you have sex once with a partner who's got chlamydia, you've got around a 30% chance that you'll pick up the infection from that one time.
The most important thing to remember is that you and your partner both need to get medical care as soon as possible. If you and your partner have already had sex, stop having sex until you can both get tested. Talk to a doctor. You will probably need to take medicine as part of your treatment.
How can I know who gave me a sexually transmitted disease (STD)? Unless you and your sexual partner were both virgins to sexual activity and neither of you have EVER been outside of your relationship for sexual activity, you cannot know. Some STIs come from an exposure that happened years before.
For curable diseases like chlamydia and gonorrhea, contact tracing has the potential to eliminate those diseases entirely. Unfortunately, in practice, it is not nearly that effective. People are often reluctant to disclose their sexual partners.
Some refer to chlamydia as a “silent” infection. This is because most people with the infection have no symptoms or abnormal physical exam findings.
(Remember, the signs of chlamydia in women and men can be hard to spot.) And don't feel embarrassed or guilty if you do have chlamydia. “There is a sense of shame around sexually transmitted diseases,” Dr. Grifo says.
Having an STI doesn't mean you did something despicable or dirty. It means you had sex — just like so much of the rest of the world. Know that most STIs can be cured or effectively managed.
Persons with chlamydia should abstain from sexual activity for 7 days after single dose antibiotics or until completion of a 7-day course of antibiotics, to prevent spreading the infection to partners. It is important to take all of the medication prescribed to cure chlamydia.
It can be confusing if one partner tests positive for chlamydia or another STI and the other does not. However, this can happen for many reasons, including false positives and false negatives. Even the most contagious STIs do not transmit from one partner to another every time they have sex.
The most helpful thing you can do is listen to your partner's concerns and fears and offer information about the STD. Give your partner time to take in the information. If you and your partner have already had sex, stop having sex until you can both get tested, even if your partner doesn't have any symptoms.
While condoms reduce the chance of passing chlamydia and gonorrhea, there is still a possibility of passing them even when a condom is used. Even after you start taking treatment for chlamydia and/or gonorrhea, you can still pass them within the first 7 days.