This is one of the most prominent signs that indicates you are a second choice. Your partner or friends give excuses why they can't meet up, visit you or even spend time with you. It is an indication that plans with you can wait while they concentrate on something or someone else.
A guy who likes you will always be nice and polite in his approach towards you and he will always look for avenues to spend more time alone with you and get to know more about you- either by going on a date, through constant phone calls or chats- the subtle signs are always there if you pay close attention.
A back-up partner, standby lover, or spare-tyre lover is a person anticipated as a potential future romantic/sexual partner in the event of the failure or unforeseen end of a current relationship.
If someone consistently makes time for you and prioritizes your needs and wants, it's a sign that they value your relationship. Conversely, if someone always puts other things or people ahead of you, it's one of the signs he treats you like an option.
How do you tell you are not a priority in his life?
Explain that you don't feel like a priority.
Your partner may not even realize that you feel like you're on the back burner. Telling them how you feel might turn your whole relationship around. On the other hand, it might help you realize that your partner can't give you what you want right now.
There are a variety of reasons why we may feel like the second choice. Sometimes, we get jealous when thinking about our partner's past relationships. Other times, we feel competitive when hearing rosy recollections about a loved one's past flames.
Men who are interested in you will likely face directly toward you during conversation. Even if you're with a group, he might turn his whole torso to face you. Watch to see if he's trying to “close you off” and keep you to himself.
You will often witness a spark in their eyes when they are looking at you or having a conversation with you. They will smile at you as if you are art personified. You can tell if someone likes you if you can sense them looking at you even when you are pretending not to notice.
A person keeping you on a backburner won't commit to anything, or even necessarily show proper romantic interest. Instead, they'll maintain contact – no matter how sporadic – in an attempt to keep you around longer-term, all in case they one day decide they want to date you.
Many have asked, “what are backburner relationships?” Backburner relationships describe partnerships where you maintain communication with someone from your past or an ex should your present relationship not work out. According to psychologists, many of us can't detach from an ex.
Sometimes it has nothing to do with the relationship or you. He is just stressed – it could be work, or maybe he is having some personal issues with his family, friends or health. Sometimes, pulling away is a form of defense mechanism. His past bad experiences can make him afraid of going through heartache again.
