To recap: ask for a time, appreciate, state the importance, tell the need in the most specific way possible, explain the outcome, ask what they need from you, and express gratitude for meeting the need. It's quite simple!
Excessive Texting
For instance, texting non-stop could indicate that one partner is clingy and needy and feeling insecure in the relationship. While this is usually only harmful to the person doing the excessive texting, it can be smothering to the person on the receiving end.
They always expect you to text back immediately
Then come the double, triple, quadruple texts, and the multiple phone calls. If this behavior is common — even when they know you're studying for an exam or working — then your partner is probably too clingy.
The best way to ask for reassurance without sounding needy is by keeping the communication open and honest. That means talking about your needs and feelings. It means not just asking, but also being open to receiving.
Offer a genuine compliment.
Once you've shook hands and introduced yourselves, it's generally a good idea to offer a sincere compliment to start the conversation (if you feel comfortable doing so). It helps put people at ease and lets them know that you're interested in chatting and getting to know one another.
A strong connection to someone you barely know is usually characterized by your ability to read their non-verbal cues, even more than usual. You can tell when they are happy, sad, irritated, or satisfied with something. Considering this mental state, it is even easier to get along with them.
The same interests and values may also be a powerful way people are drawn to someone. When two people have similar hobbies, goals, or beliefs, it might create a sense of connection and compatibility. Emotional connection is another reason why people may feel drawn to each other.
To slow things down with your partner, spend more time with your friends and family and wait to form a commitment. Then, work on building a healthy relationship with them at a slow, gradual pace so you're not rushing into things. Additionally, focus on being your best self so you're ready for a healthy relationship.
Being with them in their struggle is inherently reassuring. If you find yourself needing reassurance, it doesn't mean you're an insecure person; it simply means you're human. It takes courage to reach out and ask for help or support when needed.
Seeking reassurance mentally can look like:
Checking repeatedly in your head and trying to visualize if you turned off the oven or made your bed. Repeating “I am good” over and over in your head or out loud to counteract feeling bad. Reviewing past behaviors in one's mind mentally.
For example, here's the general idea of what I say that has gotten positive responses: “Hey, so question for you- I'm not trying to sound needy or whatever, but I was just wondering if you're still interested in whatever has been going on.
As a phrase, “dry texting” is relatively recent in the grand scheme of things. It refers to people who reply with one word, or don't carry the conversation and just say things like “lmao” and “wyd” until the receiver wants to tear their hair out in frustration or boredom.
However, people with sticky minds sometimes get caught in what we call Reassurance Traps, unable to accept doubts in some context. This can take the form of endless internet “research,” repetitive checking behaviors, and eventually alienating others with relentless reassurance-seeking conversations.
Spending quality time together: While encouraging words are a key component of reassurance, actions are also essential. Show your significant other they're a priority by making time in your schedule to be with them. Being physically present in your relationships reminds your loved ones you're there to support them.
Most people need reassurance once in a while, but people who have obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) tend to seek reassurance excessively. People with anxiety disorders or dependent personality disorder may also engage in excessive reassurance-seeking.
Constantly seeking reassurance from others can also damage relationships. When asking these questions, a person can feel manipulated into saying the things you want to hear instead of being honest; a basis for any healthy relationship. No one ever wants to feel controlled by someone else's anxiety.
1- He likes being physically close to you. For example, he holds your hand, has his arms around you, hugs you, always sit close to you, etc. 2- He puts a lot of efforts to make you feel loved.