Have you ever wondered what constitutes a bad kiss? Whilst bad breath, a darting tongue and a wet sloppy kiss are rated as the biggest kissing turn-offs according to science, it might also be your smell, taste or even your pheromones that's causing the problem.
You get too intense too quickly
If you're launching yourself at your partner, expecting an intense make-out session right away, you're probably going to be labeled a bad kisser, said sex expert Antonia Hall. Make sure you lead with your lips and keep the tongue action to a minimum, at least at first.
Making out is a colloquial American term for a sexual activity involving two (or more) people engaging in deep kissing and non-penetrative sexual touching (heavy petting). Making out can include French kissing, kissing each other's necks (necking), grazing erogenous zones, and sucking and licking earlobes.
In John Gottman's relationship research, he was able to find that six seconds is the length of a kiss that can actually create a connection with your partner. In fact, he recommends you have at least one six-second kiss per day. John calls the six-second kiss “a kiss with potential.”
Interestingly, this is largely agreed upon across generations. No need to wait for the official first date to get a little face time, however. Americans agree kids are ready for their first kiss at age 15 (15.1 on average), while on average, they had theirs at age 14.5.
Metabolic boost – kissing burns kilojoules. The more passionate the kiss, the greater the metabolic boost. Healthier mouth – saliva contains substances that fight bacteria, viruses and fungi. Deep kissing increases the flow of saliva, which helps to keep the mouth, teeth and gums healthy.
A feeling of relaxation and well-being follows." So apart from feeling good physically, making out (especially with a new partner) can make you feel good mentally, too. And besides, it can be exciting to move into uncharted territory — aka new levels of intimacy — with someone new.
Touch their face.
This can add some intimacy to the kiss. You can grab their face with both of your hands and gently pull it closer to your face, for example. You can also try gently caressing their cheek, neck, or even their earlobe. Ears are sensitive areas, so lightly stroking their ear may be a turn-on for them!
You don't have to use your tongue through the entire make out session. If you want to just kiss without tongue too, it's totally fine. When you ARE using tongue, your go-to move when Frenching can be a massage between your two tongues.
Lengthening kisses to six seconds could be a key to a better relationship. Dr. John Gottman says it's long enough to make a moment of connection with our partner. It stops the busyness in your brain and puts your focus on your partner at that moment.
Longest Kiss
And it wouldn't be Valentine's Day without a big ol' smooch. The longest kiss lasted 58 hours, 35 minutes and 58 seconds, achieved by Ekkachai Tiranarat and Laksana Tiranarat (both Thailand) at an event organized by Ripley's Believe It or Not! Pattaya, in Pattaya, Thailand, on February 12-14, 2013.
Psychologists Recommend Daily Passionate Kisses for a Healthier Relationship. Phycologists say that to maintain a healthy relationship, you should kiss your partner at least once a day, though ideally three times or more.
First base includes talking through text/face-to-face interaction, holding hands, and kissing. Second base includes physical touching above the waist. Third base includes verbally sharing vulnerabilities. Fourth Base includes physical touching below the waist.
The anticipation of a kiss increases the flow of saliva to your mouth and gives your teeth a plaque-dispersing bath. Bad breath can't be passed on to another person via kissing. A French kiss involves all 34 muscles in the face, whereas a quick pucker involves only two.
Good kissers are soft but passionate. They practice good hygiene, know how to move their lips and tongue to make the kiss feel passionate. They listen to their partners. They kiss confidently and make their partners feel wanted.
People usually consider a kiss sloppy when it leaves saliva on your face, especially outside of your lips. If you or your significant other has to wipe their face or has drool on it, the kiss is probably too sloppy.
Making out is extended, repeated kissing in an obviously non-platonic, sexual way. “Kiss” usually refers to a single kiss, or maybe one with more of a romantic or sweet tone. Although “kissing” generally means multiple kisses and not just one.