If a temporary separation is done in the right way and for the right reasons, and there are clear agreements, it can help couples gain perspective on their relationship and actually strengthen it.
Occasionally and against the odds, some couples are able to reconcile after a period of separation. Statistics based on couples getting back together after a separation show that while 87% of couples finally end their relationship in divorce after a separation, the remaining 13% are able to reconcile post-separation.
Can your husband fall back in love with you again?
With time and effort, you and your spouse can fall back in love again. Therapists often see couples facing a very real dilemma: After years and years together, one or both partners no longer feel as “in love” as they were before.
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Can a marriage be saved when one spouse falls out of love?
It is possible to save a marriage when one spouse falls out of love, but they have to willingly put in the necessary effort to get the spark back. Many marriages end in divorce, but they don't necessarily have to. Remember that falling out of love is a process, just like falling in love.
What are the odds of reconciliation after separation?
Statistics show that while 87 percent of separated couples end their relationship in divorce, the remaining 13 percent are able to reconcile post-separation.
Ideally, psychologists recommend that a trial separation last no more than three to six months. The longer you spend apart from your spouse, the harder it will be for you to get back together.
Do not threaten or become violent with your spouse. Committing or threatening to commit acts of violence (physical or psychological) can impact your claim to the matrimonial home and to having custody of and access to your children. You will also need to retain a criminal lawyer, thereby increasing your legal costs.
Maintaining the sanctity of a healthy separation, treat your spouse like a business partner by answering emails, receiving phone calls and reply to text messages. It is not a time to talk ill of each other. Your aim is to give yourself space to reflect without their influence.
Over time you become disengaged, spending more time alone, at work, with the kids, or with other friends than you do with your spouse. The two of you become more like roommates and co-parents rather than a married couple.
Red flags in a relationship include excessive jealousy and frequent lying. You should also be wary of a partner who frequently criticizes you or puts you down. Another major red flag is an unwillingness to compromise — relationships shouldn't be one-sided.
If your husband loves you deeply, he will give you maximum attention irrespective of his other engagements at work or other places. When your husband gives you attention, it is a sign he cares about you and truly loves you. Your husband should always be available when you need him around.
Falling back in love with your spouse takes effort – just as the beginning stages and initial getting-to-know-you time had. But it's completely possible and often awakens a new chapter in your life together – a closer, happier, and healthier relationship.
Even if your relationship has been stale for years, if both of you are willing to work things out despite losing feelings for each other, it can eventually come back. Trust me on this one: feelings of “love” come and go, it ebbs and flows. But true love remains intact.
The decision to end a relationship is even harder if there are children involved. Over the years, working with client's has informed how I can best help them. I have also noted that client's have shown five distinct emotional stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
