According to Eysenck's theory, introverts have naturally high levels of arousal. Because of these high arousal levels, introverts tend to seek activities and environments where they can escape from overstimulation. Alone time gives them the opportunity to process and reflect on what they have learned.
Eysenck's model of personality (Eysenck, 1967) proposes that introverts have lower response thresholds and are consequently cortically more aroused than extraverts.
According to studies by psychologist Hans Eysenck, introverts require less stimulation from the world in order to be awake and alert than extroverts do. This means introverts are more easily over-stimulated. The flip side of introverts' sensitivity to dopamine is that they need less of it to feel happy.
By extension, introverts typically prefer more submissive social roles, and tend to be less impulsive.
Since research suggests that certain introverts tend to be fantasy-prone, it is not surprising this characteristic applies to romantic fantasies as well. Some introverts enjoy fantasizing about, or “losing oneself” in romance, whether the fantasy is based on a real-life scenario or fiction.
Sexually. Studies show that extroverts get laid more often than introverts (sorry, shy guys). The data suggests extroverted men have sex 5.5 times a month, while introverted men only get it on 3 times per month.
This means talking in terms of the other person's interests and listening to them when they talk about themselves. This shows you're interested in their values, attitudes, experiences, and beliefs. You're interested in who they are as a person, which can be a real turn-on, especially to a fellow introvert or HSP.
Although there are times when introverts enjoy the rush of physical affection, other times, when they are drained or tired, touch can feel invasive and overstimulating. On the other hand, extroverts gain energy when they are close to others, so physical contact with their partner is a pick-me-up.
Sharing their interests in detail. Confessing something personal but small as a way of letting down their guard. Not wanting to end the conversation with you. Finding something they find interesting about you and rolling with it.
Key Takeaways
Introverts are generally more attuned to expressing love in nonverbal ways and don't tolerate sentimentality. They also need more time to express their affection, so patience is very important at the beginning of the relationship.
Casual sex is sometimes a no-go.
In other words, according to Dembling, introverts “like to jump into the deep end.” Rather than devoting their time and social energy to someone they're never going to see again, introverts commonly favor being around those they've cultivated an intimate, personal relationship with.
Perhaps the toughest part of being an introvert is not so much talking about yourself, but rather wishing you were better at talking about yourself.
When introverts don't get enough alone time, it's easy for them to become overstimulated. Research estimates that social interactions extending over 3 hours can lead to post-socializing fatigue for some people. Social exhaustion doesn't happen overnight.
They're Intimate With You In Non-Sexual Ways
They share with you their favorite books, their art, the project they have in mind, a story about the time they did the thing they're proudest of. They teach you that intimacy is so much more than sexual, and prove that they have that Inner Self game at the next damn level.
Many extroverts insist on teamwork and being a team player, an attitude common to both modern corporate life and the classroom. Because introverts are more private, they're inclined to cultivate a lifestyle that maximizes autonomy and self-sufficiency.
On the contrary, introverts have attractive qualities because they're active listeners. They speak less and listen more, which gets people interested in them. What makes introverts attractive is their ability to observe beyond the words people speak. They pay close attention to details and are extremely prudent.
They actually don't flirt
The first clue to finding out if an introvert is flirting with you is that they won't flirt with you in an obvious way. They'll try to make a good conversation while you're around them and make sure that you have a good time, but that's it.
It's yet another form of (dreaded) small talk.
One of the main reasons some introverts don't like texting is because they don't like small talk — and that includes small talk through texting.
They avoid eye contact or don't maintain it for long.
Not all introverts are shy or have social anxiety, but some do. Introverts who truly feel uncomfortable in crowds often have a hard time maintaining eye contact. Plus, they don't want to encourage others to talk to them.
It is generally stated that about 70 percent of all highly sensitive people are introverts, but that as much as 30 percent are extroverts. So introversion and high sensitivity are not necessarily always linked. The sensitivity to stimuli is slightly different for introverts than for HSPs.
Introverts want a mind-to-mind connection where you share your inner world with them including what makes you tick. You also could try asking your partner questions. Many introverts will share their thoughts and feelings in response to questions rather than volunteering information. So, be patient and ask your partner.