Many men, pursue someone who they can have innocent fun with to boost their self-esteem or simply to get a thrill. Another reason you might notice the signs a married man is pursuing you is because they want their partner to appreciate them more. While this might sound manipulative, it can also be a subconscious drive.
The majority of married men flirt to feed their desire of being wanted. Even though he's married, he wants confirmation that he's still attractive, not just within his married life. He wants and needs a boost to his self-esteem, ego, and confidence. It may be that he doesn't feel wanted or desired by his wife.
If a married man likes you more than a friend, he'll typically find ways to be closer to you physically. He may tilt his head sideways as he thinks about what you're saying or find reasons to make physical contact, such as touching your hand, bumping your shoulder, or even patting you on the back.
Having a crush on someone else when you're married doesn't mean that you're a bad person. It also is not a reflection of your marriage. Believe it or not, having a crush may not mean anything at all. In fact, people in happy, healthy, committed relationships can still develop fluttery feelings for attractive others.
Affairs usually begin with an attraction to someone you know fairly well, someone you spend time with each week — your friends and co-workers.
Yes, crushes are completely normal and very common among people in relationships. "You're married, not dead," jokes marriage counselor Rachel Wright, LMFT.
A married man flirting may just be having fun, or he may enjoy being found attractive and get a boost to his self-esteem in the process. He may also be simply seeking to manipulate the relationship toward a non-sexual goal, such as conforming to a permissive work environment or securing a political ally.
Fulfill his needs to be appreciated and excited. Compliment him on what he's wearing; tell him that he's interesting and his jokes are fun. Show him that you see him in a way that his wife no longer does, and help him fall in love with you by making him fall in love again with himself, especially when he's around you.
These mixed signals can be indicators that he's either confused about his feelings for you or trying to fight them. He might be surprised that he suddenly has feelings for you and is just trying to work out what it means and whether he should act on his feelings.
Sexual Compatibility
Sexual compatibility is one of the top reasons a man chooses a woman over another. Many men prefer a woman that matches their sexual styles. These styles may include her moves, the way she kisses, the way she dresses, and so on. Understand that she might not even be as beautiful as you are.
Expressing a romantic or sexual interest towards a person outside of your marriage is not only inappropriate flirting, but disrespectful. The spouse typically sees it this way unless you're in an open relationship in which seeking other partners is agreed upon as acceptable.
Unspoken attraction – What it means
It means that someone is attracted to you, but they haven't told you about it. This doesn't mean that they haven't given you clues; it simply means that they haven't told you that they find you attractive. There are many signs of unspoken mutual attraction to consider.
However, one of the signs an affair is turning into love is when you contact them more often than usual. You are missing the person with whom you are having an affair and you want to know how they are doing. At this point, you are already emotionally attached to them, and you can't do without communicating with them.
Can a man love his wife and another woman at the same time? It is not ethically correct to cheat, nor should it be encouraged, but yes, it does happen. A man might be meeting his emotional or physical needs somewhere else and still wants to stay married or in a relationship with you.
Many men who describe themselves as “happily married” slide into an emotional connection with a co-worker that crosses the line. The issue of men and emotional affairs is more elusive than most couples realize.
Physical attraction, sexual compatibility, empathy, and emotional connection are key to making a man fall in love with a woman.