This could be due to many factors: stress, menopause, conflict in the relationship, depression, believing that kissing always has to lead to sex and therefore avoiding kissing to avoid sex.
Ask her about how she defines your relationship.
Since some people view kissing as more emotionally intimate than physically intimate, she may prefer not to kiss you if she wants to maintain emotional distance. Start a conversation by stating what you've observed, “I've noticed you turn away when I try to kiss you.”
If your wife feels distant and has stopped being affectionate with you, there has likely been some lapse in respect or trust that has left her with resentment toward you. Intentional or not, women often use physical neglect as a punishment for something that displeased them.
Hormonal imbalances, depression, chronic illness/pain, and some medications can all contribute to low sexual desire. Women are about twice as likely to experience depression as men. Over 60% of people who experience depression report having a negative effect on their libido.
Kisses are the best way to connect with your partner emotionally and mentally. This simple physical act can ignite moments of intimacy and deep connection between you both. This also allows you to strengthen your bond with your partner and be more vulnerable and intimate with each other, on a deeper level.
Not only do experts recommend kissing your partner 3 times daily, but one of those kisses should be a “passionate kiss” that lasts a minimum of 7 seconds. Just a few reasons that kissing your spouse every day enriches a relationship: It's fun!
But not all of us enjoy kissing now. That may not be a problem, of course. Some couples just don't like kissing that much, but they enjoy snuggling, or touching each other's hair, or rubbing each other's arms or necks, and they still feel all close to each other and affectionate.
Depression and anxiety can also arise to the lack of sexual satisfaction in a man's life. Sexual satisfaction is important to keep mental health problems in check. This can even lead to further physical problems like erectile dysfunction.
A disinterest in sex can stem from anxiety, a lack of foreplay, certain medications that mess with libido, and body image issues. Once you can pinpoint why you're not interested in sex, have a non-judgmental conversation about how you've both been feeling.
If you've noticed that your wife doesn't want to be intimate, finds everything you do irritating, is short with you and would rather spend her time doing things that don't involve you, she might have lost attraction for you.
With a lack of affection and intimacy, you would feel lonelier than usual. You don't get feel your partner's support when you need to de-stress. Your bond with your partner, like a true friend, ceases to exist. This can even lead to depression caused by lack of intimacy.
The fear of kissing may stem from a more profound concern over intimacy or vulnerability. This fear is sometimes rooted in a fear of rejection, which causes people to worry about not being enough or about being disappointing or disgusting.
The fading of desire happens slowly. It comes with the vacuuming, the cleaning, stress, work, busy-ness, familiarity, predictability and just trying to make it through the day. Above all else, it comes with the assumption of responsibility for the needs of our partner over our own.
It can stem from your insecurities, jealousy, low self-esteem, stress, or other unresolved issues. It's imperative to reflect on it and cross-question yourself to understand the root cause. Many times, what you are feeling is not personal. Sometimes your partner may be going through issues of their own.
You could have lost your spark or the clash of values might be more apparent. Alternatively, one or both of you might have emotional or attachment issues that lead to you feeling unloved in a relationship. We tend to learn how to operate in a romantic relationship from our parents and our childhood experiences.
The short answer is that yes, a sexless marriage can survive – but it can come at a cost. If one partner desires sex but the other is uninterested, lack of sex can lead to decreased intimacy and connection, feelings of resentment and even infidelity.
Key points. It's normal for couples to feel some level of disconnect from time to time. It is important to acknowledge the disconnect and talk about it. Connecting more deeply with one's spouse can be as simple as dedicating more time to doing fun things with each other.
Poor mental health
Anxiety, stress, and depression are also common sexless marriage effects on the husband. When a husband is denied sex at home for a long time, his mental health is likely to deteriorate from stress, overthinking, and inability to release the feel-good hormone from sex.
He might not be the type of person who enjoys a lot of physical touch. Some people feel uncomfortable being touched by other people. This may cause you to have a relationship without kissing and other forms of physical intimacy. In such a case, talking about it can prove to be effective.
It boosts your 'happy hormones'
Kissing triggers your brain to release chemicals such as oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, which make you feel euphoric, encourage feelings of affection and bonding and ignite the pleasure centre of the brain. It also lowers your cortisol (stress hormone) levels.
Intimacy problems can be caused by many common reasons, from everyday stress to health issues. Some things are also just more important to some people in a relationship. For example, one partner might have more sexual needs than the other.
The findings of the study published in Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science suggested that the couples who have sex once a week were happier and the ones who had it four or more times a week did not report any major increase in their happiness levels.