The ADHD brain is prone to interrupt others due to difficulties with impulse control, directing attention, and working memory. It's important to understand that ADHDers don't intend to be rude by interrupting. It's an involuntary part of having ADHD.
Interrupting is a common behavior associated with ADHD and neurodiversity. It can be frustrating for both the individual and those around them. People with ADHD may have difficulty filtering out their own thoughts and ideas from those of others.
Self-focused behavior
A common sign of ADHD is what looks like an inability to recognize other people's needs and desires. This can lead to the next two signs: interrupting.
With ADHD, the brain doesn't correctly attend to and interpret things like facial expression, tone of voice, and other non-verbal communication messages. Therefore, someone with ADHD misreads a lot of interpersonal interactions, doesn't respond correctly, and comes off as rude.
Similarly, people with ADHD can also experience 'meltdowns' more commonly than others, which is where emotions build up so extremely that someone acts out, often crying, angering, laughing, yelling and moving all at once, driven by many different emotions at once – this essentially resembles a child tantrum and can ...
ADHD makes us more sensitive to criticism. Often, our first instinct is to respond defensively or angrily to outside comments that feel like disapproval. But adults with attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) should know that doing so could sacrifice learning opportunities and the respect of others.
Interrupters usually don't intend to convey self-importance. Often, the desire to interrupt stems from excitement or social anxiety. Human beings also crave cognitive closure, a psychological concept that effectively means the opposite of ambiguity.
People interrupt for a number of reasons: In many cases, the need to complete a train of thought leads people to interject comments at inappropriate times. At other times, interrupting can be a way to contribute to a conversation to help demonstrate that the other person is listening.
Since ADHD is a self-regulation disorder, it's no wonder ADDers struggle with boundaries. Between impulsivity and failing to self-regulate, ADHDers are in trouble. The mood of the ADHDer may fluctuate. They may become irritated, or easily annoyed.
Low Frustration Tolerance
Most people with ADHD have a very low frustration tolerance. They can be overly emotional about the stressors they experience. They don't have a barrier that allows them to set aside uncomfortable emotions, and they often become completely flooded by a feeling, making it unbearable.
Many ADHD symptoms and traits can affect a person's ability to resolve conflicts. For instance, being unable to manage their emotions well can get in the way of toning down a confrontation. Being easily distracted, talking too fast or interrupting a conversation, and forgetfulness can also cause conflicts.
Pragmatics and ADHD
Blurting out answers, interrupting, talking excessively and speaking too loudly all break common communication standards, for example. People with ADHD also often make tangential comments in conversation, or struggle to organize their thoughts on the fly.
Adults with ADHD frequently think being sociable with others is an all-or-nothing part of their lives. Either they're oversharing and talking too much, or they're withdrawn and staying home alone. Hyperactivity in adults is often expressed as being overly talkative and boisterous.
Refuse to pause for interruptions, and instead continue moving forward with your intended spiel. If needed, you can even pause for a second to address the interrupter and say, “one moment,” and then finish off your thought.
A conversational narcissist is someone who constantly turns the conversation toward themselves and steps away when the conversation is no longer about them.
Some of the most common reasons for interrupting include: Lack of self awareness: Not realizing you interrupt others. Fear of forgetting what you want to say (stemming from impatience; nervousness; or planning what to say next, instead of actively listening).
Kids with ADHD often have behavior problems. They get angry quickly, throw tantrums, and refuse to do things they don't want to do. These kids aren't trying to be bad. The problem is that ADHD can make it hard for them to do things they find difficult or boring.
These may include hyperfocus, resilience, creativity, conversational skills, spontaneity, and abundant energy. Many people view these benefits as “superpowers” because those with ADHD can hone them to their advantage. People with ADHD have a unique perspective that others may find interesting and valuable.
Adults with ADHD may find it difficult to focus and prioritize, leading to missed deadlines and forgotten meetings or social plans. The inability to control impulses can range from impatience waiting in line or driving in traffic to mood swings and outbursts of anger.
As we've discussed, unfortunately, many people with ADHD tend to have a lack of empathy. This can be addressed, though, through identifying and communicating about each other's feelings. If you see a disconnect between ADHD and empathy in your child or in your spouse, don't give up hope.
Understanding conflict aversion and ADHD
It is a common trait for individuals with ADHD, who may struggle with emotional regulation and impulsivity. When faced with conflict, individuals with ADHD may feel overwhelmed, anxious, or uncertain, leading them to avoid or withdraw from the situation.
Poor impulse control : ADHD affects executive function, which is the brain's ability to regulate emotions, plan activities, and control impulses. People with ADHD may have more trouble calming themselves when they feel angry, or may engage in more impulsive expressions of anger.