The reason men don't give you closure is that most men don't want to admit that they're not man enough or the woman is too much." By 'too much' he means her standards are too high and the man can't meet the requirement.
Some people even have a desire to avoid closure at all cost. This could be because they don't want to end up feeling guilty, rejected or criticised by others. Vagueness has its advantages, as soon as you have established exactly what happened, you are also subject to criticism – from yourself and others.
It turns out that we all need closure.
Whereas women might need some more time to process and deal with their emotions about the breakup." That being said, Dr. Dardashti really stressed that the need for closure is something we all — male and female — share.
Without closure you might keep going back to a relationship that wasn't working. You could be doomed to repeat the same relationship patterns the next time around without closure. Getting closure allows you to be your best self – and a better future partner in a healthier relationship when the time for that is right.
From her perspective, the answer to the question of why she won't give him closure is pretty simple: She doesn't have to. She's already made her decision, broken up with him and is now focused on moving on without him. Additionally, she feels as though she's not actually responsible for her ex's emotional well-being.
Narcissists are unable to handle uncomfortable feelings after a relationship ends. Instead, they discard you and will not think about you at all. They do not want to experience pain, which is also why they won't offer closure after a breakup.
It's hard to accept that it's time for you to move on and leave the past in the past. Without closure, it's hard to move on from the person you had your heart set on staying with, because there's a voice in the back of your mind reminding you that it might not really be over. They might come back.
The brain has a need for closure to process feelings. In principle, the absence of closure can ultimately disrupt mental processes because we naturally seek understanding and answers.
Closure refers to having a sense of understanding, peace, and accepted finality of the relationship whether it's ended because of loss, rejection, or growing apart.
While we may want to blame our former partner for all of the relationship problems, the reality is that it takes two people to contribute to a relationship breakdown. Closure gives you an understanding of what went wrong on your end, which can help you to grow and avoid making the same mistakes in future relationships.
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When he realizes his feelings, he might want to get back together. This realization usually happens several weeks or even months after the breakup. He'll recognize how much he needs you in his life or how he can't stand the thought of you with someone else.
Seeking closure can become a crutch that keeps you from doing the actual work of moving forward. You are asking someone who was not forthright with you in the first place to tell you what happened (if they had been, you wouldn't need closure). There are no guarantees the other person will be honest with you.
In reality, men experience more emotional pain after a breakup. They also need more time to move on from heartbreak. Since many guys are not comfortable displaying their emotions, they become avoidant. Loss of a relationship is often a common cause of why men go cold suddenly.
The answer is simple yet difficult to practice: you have to move on because lingering in the past will prevent you from living in the now and embracing the future prospects for love. You must begin to understand that closure is a selfish desire and not something you actually need in order to begin your healing process.
Closure is good for anyone.
Talking with your ex, being able to be honest with each other about why it didn't work and that you are moving on, can really help to put a true end to that chapter of your life. Only closure means you can move on.
Confronting your ex may not be beneficial. If you had an unhealthy or abusive relationship, you might feel worse or be exposed to potentially dangerous situations if you confront your ex. Instead, find closure by working on self-growth, seeing a counselor, or doing things you love.
Forgiveness is different than closure. As Oprah said, forgiveness is giving up hope that the past could be any different. Closure is the psychological version of closing something, "moving on." You can forgive but still not have closure. Some things are not meant to "move on" from.
There are several reasons why ex's reach out years later, including they are just checking up on you, they want to offer a sincere apology, or they are jealous of your happiness.
The lack of closure leaves a situation in ambiguity. People high in need for closure seek to avoid this ambiguity at all costs where people high in need to avoid closure strive to make situations more ambiguous.
At the end of a relationship, narcissists may become combative, passive-aggressive, hostile, and even more controlling. People with NPD often fail to understand other people's needs and values. They are hyper focused on their egos, but do not account for how their actions affect others.
The cerebral cortex has also been found to be less developed in narcissists and this area is responsible for memory, emotions and behaviour. Therefore the narcissist seems to move on so fast because their emotions are not as deep as ours but also, they don't form memories in the same way the rest of us do.