Shy people are often introverted, but they might also be extroverts whose anxiety gets in the way of being sociable. And non-shy introverts might be socially adept but just prefer their own company.
Quiet people are either anxious or rude:
Shyness/Social Anxiety (you want to join the conversation but you fear making yourself a social outcast by saying something stupid) Intimidation (you're intimidated by the people around you, and shrink back because you don't feel worthy)
According to research, introverts also have more brain activity than most individuals because of their inward personalities. Their quietness helps them balance out the level of stimulation their brains experience, and is the reason why most introvert traits like keen observation needs silence to function.
A quiet person is one who does not talk much: He was a quiet, almost taciturn, young man. Thesaurus: synonyms, antonyms, and examples. not speaking much or often.
Being Quiet is a Normal Way to Be
Being quiet is natural and how some people are wired. It's not something one chooses. Yes, introverts (and extroverts, for that matter) can act out of character when the situation calls for it. An introvert can lead a group meeting, just as an extrovert can sit and listen.
An introvert is a person with qualities of a personality type known as introversion, which means that they feel more comfortable focusing on their inner thoughts and ideas, rather than what's happening externally. They enjoy spending time with just one or two people, rather than large groups or crowds.
To most people, loneliness is not a word that meshes with introversion. Everyone knows that introverts value their alone time almost more than anything else. As Susan Cain wrote in Quiet, “Solitude matters, and for some people, it's the air they breathe.”
This isn't necessarily true, and while not all quiet people are necessarily smart, highly intelligent people will often refrain from speaking if they are accessing a situation. They will take some time to think about what was said and prepare an adequate response, and they find silence better than pointless small talk.
Behaviours include people pleasing, unable to say no, rescuing and colluding with others, putting everyone else before the self, lack of empowerment and decision making, and attracting relationships and friendships with people with abuser/abusive tendencies.
Silence Can Be Intimidating and Revealing Without Being Forceful. Perhaps the anticipation created through silence is so powerful, even our naval forces have tapped into the hidden potential of silence and have developed a weapon to stop people from talking.
The silent treatment, or stonewalling, is a passive-aggressive form of manipulation and can be considered emotional abuse. It is a way to control another person by withholding communication, refusing to talk, or ignoring the person.
But the reality is that introverts can be shy, just as extroverts can be shy. Introverts can be insecure, just as extroverts can be insecure. And introverts can certainly have low self-esteem, just as extroverts can too.
Being quiet is not a bad thing. Being an introvert is not a sign of weakness. Shyness is something that can be changed.
Quiet people can come off as aloof or cold. They may also give the impression that because they don't talk, they observe and judge you, which can be unpleasant. Quiet people can also be disliked by those who glorify extroversion.
Being silent allows us to channel our energies. It gives us the clarity we need to calmly face challenges and uncertainty. The hour of silence I practice each morning, and encourage you to practice as well, can be a time for collecting our thoughts, training our minds, and deciding how we want to enter into the day.
And researchers have found 70% of introverts also are highly sensitive people. HSPs for short.
Some people who we assume do not talk much, could be struggling to express themselves even if they want to talk. Sometimes, people don't know how to put it across and have the fear of being misinterpreted or misunderstood. So, they decide to keep quiet.
Introverts Don't Have Low Self Esteem
Another common misconception about introverts is that they are quiet and reserved because they have low self-esteem or lack self-confidence.
Being an introvert doesn't necessarily mean you're socially awkward, but the two do sometimes overlap. Certainly, as in my case, the fear of feeling anxious and awkward in social settings can cause us to lean into our introversion.
Many introverted people do have several close friends, but the fact remains that introverts will always need time to recharge alone. Friends fulfill important social and emotional needs, but interaction can still drain your resources.