Because of our passionate need for meaningful connection, we INFJs can get jealous easily when we see other people connecting and having fun. We might compare ourselves to them, or worse yet, when someone close to us has friends of their own, we might pull away, feeling unwanted and pathetic.
Because of this desire to keep certain special people close, the INFJ can become unknowingly jealous of that person. This is something that can cause the INFJ to become more possessive than they like or want to admit towards the people they care for the most.
INFJs don't try to make others jealous of anything. If an INFJ is in love with someone who doesn't love them back, the INFJ will remain a “loner” for a bit until they heal. After that's happened, they then continue as they did prior to falling in love - but they're a tad more guarded / protective of their heart now.
When I surveyed INFJs about their flirting styles, more than anything, they expressed a deep desire to connect emotionally with someone they liked. They will be more emotionally open, express more of their deeper longings, and become more vulnerable with you if they like you.
INFJs feel insecure when they receive criticism or are faced with conflict or confrontation.
Because of our passionate need for meaningful connection, we INFJs can get jealous easily when we see other people connecting and having fun. We might compare ourselves to them, or worse yet, when someone close to us has friends of their own, we might pull away, feeling unwanted and pathetic.
ENFJ – Being Alone
The ENFJs I spoke with hated being alone; they felt that their lives were emptier and lacking meaning the longer they spent time in isolation. This makes sense considering their dominant function, Extraverted Feeling (Fe), is largely concerned with promoting the happiness and morale of others.
What Do INFJs Do When They're Angry? A lot of things can influence how an INFJ will express their anger. Usually, they will get more withdrawn and stuck in their head when they're angry.
These introverts are hopeless romantics who tend to fall in love easily, but they also struggle to make the first move, flirt and show love once they're in a relationship. Because of their unique and rare personality type, INFJs tend to struggle in relationships, but that doesn't have to be the case.
INFJ personalities are often seen as those quiet, sensitive types who are easily upset and seem to take everything personally.
They are also quiet but fierce hardworking perfectionists who dream big and achieve their goals. Because they are often reserved, high-achieving individuals with high expectations of both themselves and others, INFJs can be intimidating to other personality types.
A heartbroken INFJ might think they should never have trusted this person in the first place and eat themselves up with guilt. They might get angry and defensive, scared of ever letting another person in. It's okay to feel those things, but it's not healthy to stay there long-term.
If you are an INFJ or an INFP personality type, you know it's possible to experience intense attraction with your crushes. In fact, most of the time when you develop a “crush” on someone, it doesn't feel like just a crush. It feels like an obsession.
INFJs are very emotional beings. They feel. Deeply. An INFJ's tears mean a range of things and are not given to generic understanding that when one cries, it is usually because they are sad or angry.
When INFJs are continually hurt or hurt bad enough, they slam the door on that toxic relationship. The well-known INFJ door slam isn't about punishing the other person. It's about protecting ourselves from more hurt. Even though many INFJs can seem to have a cold exterior, our hearts are soft.
Why do INFJs struggle so much with guilt? For one, we're perfectionists, and I think guilt goes hand in hand with that. There's also our INFJ tendency to beat ourselves up and sometimes sabotage our own wellbeing. And we're often the first to pick apart and criticize our own actions.
Communication takes precedence – the idea being that with open and honest communication, almost any other challenge can be navigated – but other things that INFJs need to be satisfied in a relationship include respect (especially for their Ni insights), semi-regular expression of love/affirmation, willingness from ...
Technically it is supposed to be an ENTP or ENFP. I would also consider INFP having seen the two interact. Since INFJ has introverted intuition as their dominant function they are most compatible with other intuitives: NT and NF. Idealists were 73% satisfied with Idealists (NF).
Exercising alone is helpful, and some INFJs find great solace in nature. Other stress busters include light reading, writing in a journal or meditation.
Ni-dominant types (INTJs and INFJs) often need considerable quiet time to themselves to think and focus. Interruptions, noise, and excessive sensory stimulation will push an INFJ to the edge of their comfort zone.
Seek solitude - INFJs are introverts who recharge their energy by spending time alone, which means being around people a lot will cause you stress. Make time for solitude, quiet and a few moments of peace.