What's the worst thing you can do to a narcissist?
What is the worst thing you can do to a narcissist? 3 things, in this order: cut him off, ignore him and his Hoovers, reject him, pretend he doesn't exist, that he's worth less than nothing, do as if he's boring, worthless, garbage. In short: go no contact forever.
Stop complimenting them, don't be submissive or agreeable, and don't do anything for them that could be seen as ego-boosting. When you do this, the narcissist has no further use for you and will either discard you or do everything in their power to pull you back into the supply-providing role.
Although narcissists act superior to others and posture as beyond reproach, underneath their grandiose exteriors lurk their deepest fears: That they are flawed, illegitimate, and ordinary.
It comes hand-in-hand with this that narcissists hate being criticised or called out. Which is exactly why there's one word in particular narcissistic people cannot stand: "no".
Narcissists are highly sensitive to criticism or any perceived threat to their self-image, and they will go to great lengths to protect it. If you criticize them or challenge their dominance, you will trigger a defensive response.
Saying 'No', enforcing boundaries and challenging them are some of the tips on how to checkmate a narcissist by making them fear you. Holding them accountable, publicly exposing them and going 'no contact' are other strategies on how to outsmart a narcissist.
A monumental weakness in the narcissist is the failure to look internally and flesh out what needs to be worked on. Then, of course, the next step is to spend time improving. The narcissist sabotages any possibility of looking deep within.
When they start running out of supply, their painful thoughts, feelings, and emotions get triggered and compromise their emotional stability. It is for this reason that narcissists tend to get worse as they get older. The older they get, the less narcissistic supply they can get.
Don't accommodate them. If they need you to do something for them, even if it's small or no trouble at all — don't do it. Try to refuse them with the least amount of fuss possible. Know that the more you do for the narcissist, the worse it will get.
Weaknesses of a narcissist: the fear of being alone
As well as being one of the greatest weaknesses of a narcissist, loneliness is also their greatest fear. That's because, in order to be someone, a narcissist needs victims. They're like predators looking for prey to feed on.
Although they can be targeted, type A people can also become a narcissist's worst nightmare. One of the most important defenses against dark personalities is having strong boundaries yourself, and type A people are usually aware they have the right to build them.
More than a dozen studies exploring whether or not narcissists can change have now been conducted… and they all point to the same conclusion: encouraging narcissists to feel more caring and compassionate reduces their narcissism… If narcissists are approached in a gentler way, many seem to soften emotionally.
Most narcissists enjoy an irrational and brief burst of relief after having suffered emotionally ("narcissistic injury") or after having sustained a loss. It is a sense of freedom, which comes with being unshackled.
Don't have any lengthy conversations. It's difficult enough to be as dull as possible in short bursts — talking to the narcissist at length will make it even more challenging as they'll be trying to draw some emotional response out of you. If the narcissist asks you questions respond with short, uncreative answers.
