Men will often come back after pulling away. This is because they've had the time to better understand their situation and their feelings, and now they're ready to pull down their defenses and take the next step.
During sex, oxytocin increases, which has the effect of lowering testosterone. When a man's testosterone levels decrease, he feels a great need to pull away and may even lose interest for a while. As his testosterone levels rebuild, his interest returns.
When a guy runs hot and cold on you, it's highly likely that he's insecure. He is blowing hot when he's feeling strong emotions about you. After the first few months of dating, he begins to panic. He gets anxious that you don't like him as much as he does.
Three months is probably the most frequent time that I see people breaking up, deciding they don't want to step it up to a more serious stage, which does include agreeing to be in a committed relationship, saying “I love you,” and more of a groove.
Men tend to give you mixed signals when they are either not interested and planning to keep you as backup, are confused about what they want or even playing around. This behaviour can be very frustrating and it gets difficult to deal with that hot and cold attitude.
If you believe that your guy is pulling away, give him that space to deal with his emotions. Either he will come back to you with clarity about his feelings or you will be rid of someone who didn't deserve you.
Keeping all of this in mind, we have compiled some fine examples of flirty texts to get him chasing you: Make sure you put me on your “to-do” list today (add winking face emoji) Do you wanna know the first two things that come to mind when I think of you? (wait for him to reply, then leave him wondering)
Men respond to no contact because of the curiosity present in every human. This curiosity pushes your partner to return so he can know why you behaved as you did. For instance, when someone suddenly stops speaking to you, it's expected that you find out why they act that way.
Medium got to the conclusion that “There is no definite time limit, but if a guy likes you, he will usually pull away for no longer than a few days or a week at most”.
It really depends on why the guy has pulled the slow fade. If he did it to see if the grass was greener with someone else, but ended up regretting that choice he may come crawling back. Other reasons to return might be general doubts about his reasons for ending the relationship or feeling of guilt around it.
Waiting 2–3 days or up to a week before reaching out gives him a chance to text you first once he realizes what he's missing. If you've waited more than a week and still haven't heard back from him, it might be time to move on.
Maybe this is the first time he is experiencing such intense feelings for someone, and this scares him. He might be scared of the fact that he will disappoint you or doubtful if he is ready to commit. Being afraid of feelings and love is the number one reason men pull away.
Another corroborated this, adding that "guys do this so they don't have to deal with awkward situations or conversations. It stems from either laziness or fear, depending on the guy." He was quick to clarify that he's never done it, because he's always just been honest about what he wants.
Many guys hate failing and feeling inadequate. They often don't have the speed of words to compete with their partner in a conflict. Men's emotional processing capacity is often much slower than their partner. Whilst being silent is a sign of a man's need to process it is also a way to avoid the feelings of defeat.
