People with paranoid personality disorder see threats all around them. They tend to hold grudges, dwelling to the point of obsession over past slights they've experienced. These tendencies keep them from forming lasting and close relationships as hostility and general distrust consume their emotional lives.
Introverts tend to hold grudges the longest, though they may not be obvious about it. Those who believe in a just world — where their own offenses are likely to balance out those directed toward them — are less likely to hold a grudge.
Why is it so easy to hold a grudge? Being hurt by someone, particularly someone you love and trust, can cause anger, sadness and confusion. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment and hostility can take root.
Long- held grudges can lead to deep-seated resentment, which in turn infuses toxicity into a relationship. “A toxic relationship may include grudges and other maladaptive or emotionally unhealthy dynamics between two people.
INFPs are very sensitive to interpersonal tension and tend to avoid conflict. They have trouble letting go of hurts and often hold grudges. Because they see only the good in those they care about, they run the risk of being disillusioned and disappointed easily.
Many INFPs feel incompetent and lost when they're emotionally overwhelmed. All their ideas seem pointless, and they are afraid of bringing up ideas for fear that they aren't good enough. They often report feeling listless, anxious, and unable to form clear thoughts.
They Won't Hold Grudges
In fact, researchers at Emory University have shown that holding onto stress contributes to high blood pressure and heart disease. Holding onto a grudge means you're holding onto stress, and emotionally intelligent people know to avoid this at all costs.
But it's not the same as experiencing serious trauma from something like a sexual assault or violent crime. “When you're holding onto a grudge, you're hanging onto a story about an event and keeping an emotional experience around that doesn't need to be around,” Gerber says. “This is really different from trauma.
Not necessarily. Someone can be very mature but because someone has hurt them deeply, they are unable to forgive and forget. Sometimes, hurts are so bad that the mature thing to do would be to never trust the perpetrator again.
Studies reveal women hold grudges longer than men. It doesn't mean it's consistent for all women, but overall, there is a pattern. I'm not fond of generalities, yet by understanding our differences, it makes us stronger.
Sometimes, holding grudges—and blaming others—may be a form of self-protection. In the same vein, some people may be more cognizant that they are stoking feelings of bitterness than others, who may be unaware of the role they play in keeping their anger alive.
According to the MBTI® Manual, ISFPs were the type most likely to get upset or angry and show it, as well as the type most likely to get upset or angry and not show it. When I asked ISFPs about this many of them said that they would simply cut off a person who repeatedly made them angry.
Which personality traits going along with being “the jealous type?” A study published in Frontiers in Psychology suggests that there are people who are high in neuroticism, low in agreeableness, and low in openness are more likely to be jealous in their romantic relationships.
Our study, published in Personality and Individual Differences, identified a group of individuals with dark traits who report above average empathic capacities – we call them "dark empaths". Since this study, the dark empath has earned a reputation as the most dangerous personality profile.
Let them know that you are sorry that the situation occurred, even if you think it was through no fault of your own. Ask what you can do now to make things better. Sometimes your good intentions, along with an apology, will be enough.
It's not an easy place to be. Generally when someone has a grudge against you, anger, blame, contempt, and other forms of hostility and aggression are being projected. Often, grudges are done in silence (passive-aggressive).
People who communicate passive-aggressively often "play the victim," says Manly, because it's difficult for them to acknowledge their own faults. They can also be unforgiving and self-righteous, holding grudges that can last for years.
Difficulties talking or talking late. Having problems remembering things. Inability to connect actions with consequences. Difficulty with problem-solving or logical thinking.
Some psychologists believe that the ability to listen to another person, to empathize with, and to understand their point of view is one of the highest forms of intelligent behavior.
Shallow conversations, relationships, and activities turn INFPs off because they see them as a waste of time. People who focus more on appearances or material possessions than on substance and meaning are very unappealing to INFPs.
However, when they're unhealthy, INFPs become disillusioned or stuck in their ways. They may withdraw from the world and become isolated, or they may act out in destructive ways. Their idealism can turn into cynicism, and their values may become inflexible.
The INFP. INFPs are imaginative, empathetic souls who use their considerable gifts to make the world a better place. They often feel like they're on the outside looking in, and this can lead them to be quiet and introspective.