Whilst bad breath, a darting tongue and a wet sloppy kiss are rated as the biggest kissing turn-offs according to science, it might also be your smell, taste or even your pheromones that's causing the problem. Being a bad kisser can be a deal breaker, but kissing is more complicated than most people think.
Someone who is a bad kisser is not very good at kissing.
Kissing requires consent. Never just jump in, you need to ask and know your partner is comfortable. To fix a bad kisser, begin with being honest and open about what you want from your partner. Begin with complimenting your partner for their effort, then, sweetly tell them what you need to change.
A bad kisser isn't just someone without the skill, but also without common sense. And if you are a bad kisser, others will be able to see that, even without kissing you. Don't give your kissing partner a bad physical experience, and don't embarrass them. Keep your makeout sessions private.
Good kissers are soft but passionate. They practice good hygiene, know how to move their lips and tongue to make the kiss feel passionate. They listen to their partners. They kiss confidently and make their partners feel wanted.
Let her know you're coming from a place of concern and wanting to make a good thing (the relationship aside from kissing/sex) better. Let her know that what is happening is preventing you from enjoying her kisses—and you so want to enjoy her kisses! Also, ask her explicitly what, specifically, she finds pleasurable.
*Show him the way. Initiate by teasing him with intimate kissing techniques when he least expects, since once his mouth starts moving too much, it's going to be tricky to tame him. Instead, sensuously nibble or gently suck on his lip, and give him a tender surface lip kiss.
FOR 99.9% of women, bad kissing is a deal-breaker. A very fast deal-breaker. A woman will give you one pass for nervousness. If the second kissing experience is poor, that's it.
Focus on the lips.
One reason for sloppy kisses is that there is too much tongue movement going on. You can encourage the other person to focus on the lips and not the tongue. Do this by focusing on your partner's lips yourself, by sucking them and kissing them.
FOR 99.9% of women, bad kissing is a deal-breaker. A very fast deal-breaker. A woman will give you one pass for nervousness. If the second kissing experience is poor, that's it.
Focus on the lips.
One reason for sloppy kisses is that there is too much tongue movement going on. You can encourage the other person to focus on the lips and not the tongue. Do this by focusing on your partner's lips yourself, by sucking them and kissing them.
That doesn't mean you're obliged to get used to someone else's terrible technique, but you do need to have a little patience and sympathy with them. The good news is that kissing is easy to coach. You just need to be prepared with lots of positive reinforcement. '