In Islam as well as in psychology, the father is meant to be the daughter's guardian, protecting her from harm, teaching her life skills and strong values. Yet despite all this, far too many fathers play a distant, secondary role in their daughter's lives.
First of all, we'd like to state that Islam takes into account the natural human feelings, and, hence, there is nothing wrong with a man's expressing his tender parental love to his daughter, so long as this is done in the normal framework of a parent-child relationship, with no room for perverted feelings.
A daughter is a great bounty and an honour granted by Allah, Imaam Al-Hasan said: “Girls are a source of reward and sons are a blessing; rewards are in one's favour (on the Day of Judgment) whereas one will be held accountable for blessings.”
A daughter's relationship with their father can play a key role in their psychological development. In fact, when fathers are present in their daughters' lives, girls grow up with a healthy sense of who they are. They are more confident and self-assured and have a clearer understanding of what they want in life.
Fathers and Their Daughters
Young girls depend on their fathers for security and emotional support. A father shows his daughter what a good relationship with a man is like. If a father is loving and gentle, his daughter will look for those qualities in men when she's old enough to begin dating.
Daughters naturally crave connection with their fathers, and they especially cherish emotional and physical affection from their fathers. In fact, according to Meg Meeker's research, when girls and dads have a stronger connection, daughters do better in life on a number of different levels.
He is her ultimate standard and role model for manhood. So, dad, if the relationship is open and warm, your daughter will be confident and will expect those same good things from the young men in her life. She'll likely make good choices about who she spends time with.
People use the phrase “daddy issues” to refer to father-daughter relationships that have a negative impact on the way a woman relates to men. Women with "daddy issues" do not have specific symptoms, but common behaviors include having trouble trusting men and being jealous.
Daughters are a gift from Allah. Sons are also blessed by Allah. Both are equally important. Men are dependent on women, and women are dependent on men.
The Blessing of Daughters. Daughter is the most beautiful flower of your garden because they blossom with great blessing and as a reward in the life of parents. Daughters are real love and heart warmer. They are the most precious and beautiful gift of Allah.
He says: “Whoever has two daughters and brings them up well, and treats them kindly, will be my companion in heaven, like these two (pointing with his two fingers).” His companions say that they understood that this also applies to a man with one daughter.
The role of the father as the leader (leader), on the basis of the Qur'an An-Nisa (4:34), and the Sahih Hadith of Abdullah bin Umar RA: "Every one of you is a leader and every leader will be held accountable for he leads "(Al-Bukhari, 2014); 2.
The role of father to be the backbone of the family was already written in the Holy Book of Quran. Father is obliged to support his wife and children with a lawful sustenance. Below here Allah Almighty says in the Quran. The others important role of father as the husband is to be a fair husband.
Children have the right to be fed, clothed, and protected until they reach adulthood. Children must have the respect, to enjoy love and affection from their parents. Children have the right to be treated equally, vis-a-vis their siblings in terms of financial gifts.
Dads have a God-given instinct to protect.
Every healthy father has a deep desire to protect his little girl from harm. It's not because he doesn't think she can take care of herself, or that he thinks girls are less capable than boys.
You can be a better father to your daughter by listening to her perspective, discussing rules (rather than dictating them), praising her intelligence or creativity, letting her take the lead during quality time, and talking respectfully about women.
Because they never got the direction needed from a father figure, they learn to make up their own survival playbook. This can lead to negative coping skills such as sexual promiscuity, total avoidance of intimacy, isolation, substance abuse, anxiety, and depression.
Her “First Love”
In other words, fathers can and should be their daughter's “first love” as demonstrated in this video. How a father treats both his daughter and her mother can help a young woman feel safe and secure in her relationships with the boys and men in her life, including her future husband.
Who Loves kids the Most: Dads or Moms? Though there is no clear answer, research has found that, in general, fathers tend to be more loving towards their children than mothers. In one study, fathers were found to be more responsive to their children's needs, both emotionally and physically.
Definition of Emotional Incest
Emotional incest may or may not involve sexual overtures, and it can involve either gender parent with either gender child; it is most commonly found between mothers and sons. Another term for emotional incest is covert incest.
Gallup has been polling Americans about their baby gender preferences since 1941, and the results are consistent — there's always a slight preference for sons over daughters. About 40% of parents, across the decades, have told researchers that if they could only have one child, they would want a boy.
Daughters need great fathers. In fact, it would be nearly impossible to overstate the importance of the father-daughter relationship. Young women who have a positive relationship with their fathers achieve more academically. They make better relationship choices.
Raising a daughter is like finding a best friend in her. She is still there – listening to you and watching you when you speak or are lost deep in thoughts. Often, out of the blue, she also directs you on various matters. The little girl keeps you up-to-date with the current generation.