“For children, it leads to self-hatred,” said Kruk. A child trained to despise one parent, research shows, is much more likely to end up isolated, having poor self esteem, a tendency to depression, low academic performance, mental health problems and a high rate of addiction to alcohol and drugs.
A Word From Verywell
Remember that no parent-child relationship is perfect. Your child saying "I hate you" is common and doesn't mean you're a bad parent or that they don't love you. Instead, they're simply struggling with big feelings. You can help by keeping calm and providing coaching on emotional regulation.
A child who completely rejects a parent is usually doing so because of pressure being placed upon them which is largely unseen because the parent who is causing it is either high functioning and able to disguise it, or is being assisted to do so by a legal and mental health system which does not understand alienation ...
It's normal and expected to despise your parents if they've mistreated you — whether they intentionally abused you, held you to unrealistic and harmful expectations, or forced you to live a life you also hated.
This type of behavior is regarded as a form of child abuse. Children impacted by this psychological abuse are said to have parental alienation syndrome (PAS), a term coined by American psychiatrist Richard Gardner in 19851.
But in other cases, adult children end up disowning parents and other family members, sometimes referred to as parental estrangement. Parental estrangement occurs for all kinds of reasons. It's rarely an easy choice to make.
A strained relationship between fathers and their children is not uncommon. If you can't stop thinking about why you dislike your father, addressing this concern is important. Fathers have a huge role in their children's lives, but sometimes they fail to in these roles to the point their children start disliking them.
Narcissistic Parental Alienation syndrome refers to the process of psychological manipulation of a child by a parent to show fear, disrespect, or hostility towards the other parent. Very often, the child can't provide logical reasoning for the difference in their behaviour towards both parents.
Emotionally absent or cold mothers can be unresponsive to their children's needs. They may act distracted and uninterested during interactions, or they could actively reject any attempts of the child to get close. They may continue acting this way with adult children.
If you are feeling overwhelmed as a mom, you are not alone. The “depleted mother syndrome” is a term used to describe the feeling of exhaustion and depletion that many mothers experience. It is a very real phenomenon, and it can have a significant impact on a mother's ability to function.
Control. A major reason our youth talk back and show disrespect is not having enough power and control. Even a one-year old can be heard insisting, "ME DO IT!" As kids reach the age of three and older, they need to be able to start making choices for themselves rather than just being told what to do.
Every stage of parenting has its challenges, but one poll reveals what age most parents feel they struggled with the most.
Described as “an exhaustion syndrome,” parental burnout has three distinct aspects: An overwhelming exhaustion related to parenting and your role as a parent. Feeling emotionally distanced from your children. A sense of ineffectiveness as a parent; feeling unsure of your ability to parent well.
It's not uncommon for children to prefer one parent over the other. Sometimes this is due to a change in the parenting roles: a move, a new job, bedrest, separation. During these transitions, parents may shift who does bedtime, who gets breakfast, or who is in charge of daycare pickup.
Feeling unloved as a child can have long-lasting effects from lack of trust to mental health conditions, but healing is possible. If you had an unloving childhood and your emotional needs went unmet by your caretakers, you're not alone. This experience is common, and the effects can run deep and long term.
Look for Activities Your Daughter Will Enjoy
Lastly, don't push a singular activity, as you might create more resistance to it. Find activities that your teen enjoys and join in. Need more help with this? What I see most often in young teens is that they behave as though they want less attention from their parents.
You talk too much: If you child is more introverted, they may need time to be quiet, time alone or time to process what you're asking. If your child is more extroverted, they may need more time to talk. You're judgmental: Your child may not talk to you because they are afraid of your response.
Alienated children are consumed with hatred of the targeted parent. They deny any positive past experiences and reject all contact and communication. Parents who were once loved and valued seemingly overnight become hated and feared.
Presently, the term 'parental alienation' is not recognised or referred to in Family Law Act 1975 (Cth). However, the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia has made reference to and made appropriate orders in cases involving parental alienation. Currently, parental alienation is not in itself a crime.
According to Psychology Today, parental alienation primarily is considered to be an attachment-based trauma, where instead of serving the psychological and emotional needs of the child by providing stability, alienating parents use their child to meet their own needs.