As you probably know, once we have food and shelter, but before we can seek self-actualization—the Smart State—we must feel safety, belonging and mattering.
Once we have food, water and shelter we must feel safety, belonging and mattering. Without these three essential keys a person cannot get in their Smart State—they cannot perform, innovate, feel emotionally engaged, agree, move forward.
Buddha said very clearly that humans have five main desires: food, sleep, sex, money, fame. As we grow these five desires all become stronger.
In the end, the researchers identified 16 basic desires that we all share: acceptance, curiosity, eating, family, honor, idealism, independence, order, physical activity, power, romance, saving, social contact, status, tranquility and vengeance.
Humanity's greatest desire is to belong and connect. And now we see each other. We hear each other. We share what we love, and it reminds us what we all have in common.
But other desires kept them active: four in particular, which we can label acquisitiveness, rivalry, vanity, and love of power.
“The deepest desire of every human heart is to be known and to be loved,” Father Joe Campbell said in a Feast of St. Joseph the Worker homily Saturday. “This desire reaches its fullness in the desire to be known by God Himself.”
Taken seriously | 'My place' | Something to believe in | Connect | Be useful | Belong | More | Control | Something to happen | Love | So what? Social researcher Hugh Mackay has identified ten social desires that drive us.
We want health, wealth, comfort, good relationships, success, good progeny and fame. There are also spiritual desires - we have a desire to know about life after death, about how to remain detached and equanimous under all kinds of circumstances and we want to be at peace.
Power | Activity | Recognition | Affiliation | Competence | Ownership | Meaning | Achievement | So what? Author Dean Spitzer identified eight 'desires of motivation' that may drive people in different ways.
The desires are power, independence, curiosity, acceptance, order, saving, honor, idealism, social contact, family, status, vengeance, romance, eating, physical exercise, and tranquility. "These desires are what drive our everyday actions and make us who we are," Reiss said.
Our desires
Through extensive research, the author has found the following desires (in no specific order): Power, Independence, Curiosity, Acceptance, Order, Saving, Honour, Idealism, Social Contact, Family, Vengeance, Romance, Eating, Physical activity and Tranquillity.
The 16 basic desires are: power, independence, curiosity, acceptance, order, saving, honor, idealism, social contact, family, status, vengeance, romance, eating, physical exercise, and tranquility.
The first six urges—food, clothing, shelter, safety, protection, and sex—focus primarily on survival of the individual and the species, but they also have social implications as well, such as one's belonging within a tribe or relationship to others.
We are motivated to seek food, water, and sex, but our behavior is also influenced by social approval, acceptance, the need to achieve, and the motivation to take or to avoid risks, to name a few (Morsella, Bargh, & Gollwitzer, 2009).
Our deepest darkest desires are the things we hide not only from family and friends but also from ourselves. We shield these desires behind a duplicitous well-intentioned facade. This is not something everyone can maintain. Hiding in plain sight are our most despicable secrets.
From lowest to highest, the Gita ranked these into four categories: the desire to reduce pain, the desire to feel better, the desire to gain power (internal and external) over our lives, and finally, the desire to achieve spiritual discrimination.
Its four main factors address Religious needs, Existential needs, Inner Peace needs, and Giving/Generativity needs.
A desire is a strong wish to do or have something.
Spiritual care needs
the need for meaning and purpose. the need for support and hope. the need for dignity and respect.
The root of all desires is the one desire: to come home, to be at peace. There may be a moment in life when our compensatory activities, the accumulation of money, learning and objects, leaves us feeling deeply apathetic.
In general, desire begins in a relatively automatic manner as the brain pleasure centers evaluate external incentives against the state of mind (e.g., hungry, craving, or feeling lonely). For example, negative mood can be a cue that triggers desires to improve one's current state.