Even though crying at your wedding might feel a bit embarrassing (and if you're wearing makeup, you certainly don't want to ruin it!), shedding a few tears just shows that you understand how important this milestone really is.
Whatever the reason for your pre-wedding jitters, know that this is entirely normal: Many people have some level of cold feet before their wedding. But just because it's normal doesn't mean you can ignore these feelings; it's important to deal with them before you walk down the aisle.
he simple answer is yes, it's 100% OK for a man to cry, if he feels the need to at his wedding. Traditionally the saying goes: “real men don't cry”.
Sociologists opine that the ceremonial crying of a bride portrays her reluctance to leave her parent's house and to give up her carefree childhood to begin a life of a burden-bearing wife. Therefore, ceremonial weeping is a natural grief signifying that she is resisting departure to her groom's house.
1. Hiring a Day-Of Wedding Planner. This is one of the most popular regrets – not having someone on the day-of telling people what to do and making sure your day is on the right track. This may seem like something simple, that you could put your maid of honor in charge of, or maybe a well-organized aunt – WRONG.
You don't respect the religious rituals.
Regardless of your own beliefs, it's important to respect the couple's choices on such a sacred day. "When you refuse to participate in or respect religious rituals during the ceremony it can offend not only the bride and groom, but also their family members," says Swann.
Using Power and Control. This is by far the most destructive force any human can bring to a marital relationship, and obviously includes the use of physical and sexual abuse or violence.
If your sweet groom doesn't cry or react in a huge way, don't be disappointed! It's a lot of pressure, and it doesn't mean he loves you any less. I photograph a lot of weddings, and I can tell you that the majority of grooms don't have a “special” reaction.
Of course it's okay. It's human to cry. You might not like it, you may feel strongly towards it, but, something not being favourable doesn't make it okay to hate on something that humans are hardwired to do.
Once again, it's normal to feel depressed before getting married. We called on the expert help of a mental health professional to explain why wedding depression is a common occurrence. We've also got a guide to post-wedding blues, if you are struggling with those.
Familiarity. When you have a positive gut reaction that you are marrying the right person, Sommerfeldt notes that you may feel a sense of familiarity. “People often describe this as feeling as though they've known the person forever,” she says.
You may feel like you're taking things more personally or even, say, that your bridesmaids are secretly mad at you. It's just your emotions running high and the stress of having this one day be the best day ever. If you happen to cry for no apparent reason, it's okay! So many brides before you have been there.
“Some brides and grooms begin to dread their big day, due to the fear of 'what might go wrong', 'messing up the vows', 'being the centre of attention', as well as the initial pressure of making sure everything is well organised.
Wedding planning involves a lot of time, energy, and money. Additionally, the sheer number of decisions you have to make can be overwhelming. The pressure of wanting everything to be perfect doesn't help. Add everyone's opinions and expectations to the mix and it can feel like a nerve-wracking exercise.
Once the initial engagement euphoria tapers off, it's completely normal to get overwhelmed by the onslaught of decisions you need to make leading up to your wedding day.
While every bride is different and crying on your wedding day is also a testament to the love you share with your partner, don't stress at all if you don't. It doesn't mean you aren't emotional.
It's always more polite to decline the invitation sooner rather than later, where possible so that the bride and groom can offer your place to someone else. Be politely apologetic, explain why you can't attend, and send a small gift if you can afford to.
For any groom, once he spots his bride, he remembers all the challenges they went through together and he is amazed that his dreams of getting married are finally being actualized. Although men generally don't cry as often, there are still many who aren't afraid to express their emotional side.
Contempt
John Gottman found out that contempt is the No. 1 predictor of divorce. Contempt is poison for marriages. Behaviors such as disrespecting, cursing, name-calling, and anything else that makes the other person feel bad about themselves reflect contemptuous intentions.
Killer #1: Over Familiarity
It starts off very small and subtle, and grows unnoticed. However it is easy to identify by analyzing how you treat each other in your marriage. This killer alone can lead a couple to divorce and often does. Over familiarity means taking each other for granted.
The Golden Rule.
Treat your significant other the way you would want to be treated. Be the person you would want to be married to. Keep in mind how your actions or inaction may impact your spouse.
Out of 2,000 newlyweds, married in or after 2010, surveyed by Dana Rebecca Designs, a whopping 76 percent said there were things they would do differently and 43 percent said they actually have regrets about some aspects of the wedding. See, told you you're not alone.
Planning your wedding party should be fun, but it's often a source of stress when the venue and budget limit how many people you can invite. This is one of the main causes of bride anxiety, the fear of upsetting or offending their friends and family when they are unable to offer a plus one invite.