Yes it's okay to cuddle with your boyfriend as long as it is in an appropriate place i.e not at school or in everyones faces. However, your very young, you don't need any full on relationship at your age. Treat it like a special friendship that's all.
But as uncomfortable or scary as it may feel to consider your child with a romantic life, remember that this is a normal, healthy, and necessary part of any young adult's emotional development.
According to Assistant Professor Kate Fogarty, Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences, Cooperative Extension Service, Institute of Food and Agricultural Sciences of the University of Florida, the average romantic relationship span for a 12- to 14-year-old is five months.
Most of a person's instinctive emotions – including love – are present from the very beginning. It's just that teens don't necessarily have the tools to manage them. Your first love, whether at age 14, 15, 16, or beyond, might not be the one you end up with for the rest of your life, and that's okay.
Nothing wrong with cuddling at any age.
Around ages 12-15, people often start having their first kiss. Don't feel pressured by other people your age kissing people, and don't rush into kissing someone if you are apprehensive. You'll know intuitively when the time feels right.
Platonic cuddling etiquette
Ask your partner what they want - Platonic cuddling is a unique form of touch that allows people to feel close and connected, but without the commitment of a romantic relationship. However, it is important to ask your partner what they want to do and how they feel about the situation.
"There is no law about when you are old enough to have a girlfriend or boyfriend, unlike the age of consent. You need to know your child well, because some children may be ready for a relationship at 12 but another not until they are 17."
Children in this age group might:
Focus on themselves; going back and forth between high expectations and lack of confidence. Experience more moodiness. Show more interest in and influence by peer group. Be less affectionate toward parents; sometimes might seem rude or short-tempered.
The age in which tweens develop romantic interests in other people varies tremendously from child to child. Some kids may start expressing interest in having a boyfriend or girlfriend as early as age 10 while others are 12 or 13 before they show any interest.
Rest assured that it's totally normal for a 14-year-old to be interested in dating, and this is a healthy, important part of growing up. However, that doesn't mean that their relationship will look a whole lot like a regular adult relationship.
Close in age exceptions
A 14 or 15 year old can consent to sexual activity as long as the partner is less than five years older and there is no relationship of trust, authority or dependency or any other exploitation of the young person.
In fact, the research shows that teenagers (and adults) who use screens at night are getting up to an hour less sleep per night. Ask your teenager to stash their phone out of the bedroom at night (say, after 10 p.m. or 11 p.m. depending on your teenager's typical bedtime). Consider doing the same.
Americans agree kids are ready for their first kiss at age 15 (15.1 on average), while on average, they had theirs at age 14.5. But first, let's talk about sex. Americans feel kids need the "sex talk" at age 12 (12.3 on average), a year earlier than they were given the chat (13.2 on average).
Age does not matter when it comes to giving our children freedoms or privileges. The best rule to follow is to give the child as much freedom as he is able to manage.
Be a gentleman.
Though it may be hard to be a gentleman when you're a teenager, you should try to treat your partner with respect as much as you can. Part of being a gentleman means being attentive to your partners's needs, from opening the door for them or their friends to hanging up their coat if they come over.
“We have come to know that the age of teenager at which they really got the greatest proportion of risky choices and that is 14 especially when they got there first mobile phone & internet access, according to the Sara –Jayne Blakemore from University College of London has written in her book “Inventing Ourselves: The ...
At this stage in your son's life, they are right in the midst of puberty, which means that their hormone levels are up and down. They'll face emotional changes and feelings that are new and strange. You may see: Some mood swings and, at times, they may be depressed and short-tempered.
At this age, many 14-year-olds are developing their unique identity, gaining independence, and likely exploring (or thinking about) romantic relationships. That can be a lot to take in as a parent.
Approach her and lead into something appropriate.
Smile and make eye contact. Be friendly. Talk about something appropriate when you initiate. In the back of her mind, the girl probably knows that you're talking to her because she looks pretty, but you have to at least pretend to have a reason to talk to her.
Remember there is no right or wrong answer or decision, it is a family issue, you may be happy for their boyfriend/girlfriend to stay over or you might find a happy medium giving them separate bedrooms. Have you had experience of your son or daughter wanting their girlfriend or boyfriend to stay the night?
Snuggling and cuddling with your partner can bring you two closer as you feel more comfortable around each other. It not only increases intimacy but also lowers blood pressure, and relieves anxiety, among other benefits, and helps love and relationship thrive.
It can simply be an expression of the care that you have for each other, and it can take any form that is consensual and desired by each person. Opening up your friendship to include more hugs, hand-holding, kisses, cuddling, and more can bring in a level of connection and vulnerability that is completely new.