The only specific allowance for remarriage after a divorce is for adultery (Matthew 19:9), and even this is debated among Christians. Another possibility is desertion—when an unbelieving spouse leaves a believing spouse (1 Corinthians 7:12-15).
“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”9 Here, the phrase “and marries another” raises the issue of remarriage. Jesus states that divorcing a mate on the grounds of immorality frees the offended mate to remarry without committing adultery.
Biblically speaking, a second marriage can be blessed by God if certain conditions are met. In the Bible, polygamy was common in ancient times but was not endorsed or encouraged by God. When Christ came into the world, He set aside old teachings and brought with Him new laws that were centered around love and equality.
While most states do not have any timeline restrictions on getting remarried, a few enforce a waiting period for remarriage. If you live in one of those states, you may have to wait several months after your divorce is finalized. A waiting period can be a good thing.
Yes, God forgives divorce and remarriage like any other sin
Although God's view of divorce will remain unchanged, he absolutely can forgive those who turn to him in prayer for forgiveness for any decisions made surrounding their divorce.
One eternal or unforgivable sin (blasphemy against the Holy Spirit), also known as the sin unto death, is specified in several passages of the Synoptic Gospels, including Mark 3:28–29, Matthew 12:31–32, and Luke 12:10, as well as other New Testament passages including Hebrews 6:4–6, Hebrews 10:26–31, and 1 John 5:16.
Among people who can remarry—those who had a marriage end in divorce or the death of a spouse—men are more likely to tie the knot again than women. The gap has narrowed some over the years, but statistically, men remain much more prone to multiple marriages.
Matthew 19:9
9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
However, happiness isn't the only benefit of remarriage. People who remarry are statistically less likely to develop chronic health conditions like diabetes, heart disease, or high blood pressure. They are also more likely to remain physically active, which can help avoid mobility limitations in the aging process.
While a second marriage can be successful, it's still a relationship composed of two imperfect people. It is still bound to have some of the same relationship issues that we all face from time to time. It can be a challenge if wounds from old relationships aren't quite healed.
One important factor is how the man feels about divorce. If he is still bitter and angry about his past marriage, then it is probably not a good idea to marry him. Another important factor is whether or not the man has learned from his mistakes and is willing to change.
Ephesians tells us to, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (4:32). The Gospel writer Mark says, “Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” (11:25).
In summary, every marriage is considered legitimate, and the Lord expects us to honor whatever marriage we have. Even though a second marriage is formed through an act of adultery, the sin of adultery is not ongoing and the new marriage is valid.
It is God's perfect will for your marriage to be restored but your spouse has a free will and God won't force them to return. You need to be at a place where you are standing for your marriage because it is the RIGHT thing to do.
Matthew 5:32, NIV
This is a covenant for life; and should not be entered into lightly, with divorce as an option. Divorce in the Bible is only considered under the only exceptional circumstance of sexual immorality.
John Gill comments on 1 Corinthians 7 and states that polygamy is unlawful; and that one man is to have but one wife, and to keep to her; and that one woman is to have but one husband, and to keep to him and the wife only has a power over the husband's body, a right to it, and may claim the use of it: this power over ...
Marrying a divorced woman can bring many satisfactions. She is likely to be independent and used to being alone, so she will never take you for granted. She is also used to being rejected and dependent on someone else, so she will be grateful to have you in her life.
Certainty of Having Emotional Baggage
Many divorcees have had a rather ugly, matrimonial past that might include physical and verbal abuse. Such people are prone to being emotionally vulnerable. You need to decide if you are comfortable with such type of person.
While many couples see remarriage as a second chance at happiness, the statistics tell a different story. According to available Census data, the divorce rate for second marriages in the United States is over 60% compared to around 50% for first marriages. Why are second marriages more likely to fail?
Nearly four out of five divorced people make another trip down the aisle. As a general rule, the younger the person, the more quickly they are likely to remarry. The average time for someone to remarry after a divorce is just under four years.
Nevertheless, a common consensus among most marriage experts is that the average time for remarrying after divorce is around two to three years, which can substantially reduce the likelihood of a divorce.
The only specific allowance for remarriage after a divorce is for adultery (Matthew 19:9), and even this is debated among Christians. Another possibility is desertion—when an unbelieving spouse leaves a believing spouse (1 Corinthians 7:12-15).
Jesus specifically allowed divorce for infidelity
Matthew 19:9 (ESV) And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery. Note that Jesus does not say this is the only reason for divorce. We find other reasons for divorce in Scripture.
In the first, Matthew quotes Jesus as saying: “It was also said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, except on the grounds of porneia (sexual immorality), makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:31-32).