Your daughter will also be developing their ability to think logically and solve problems systematically. They should be able to understand and consider others' points of view. They should understand how their behavior affects others and have a sense of what's right and wrong.
Children at this stage have entered a highly emotional space. They are just beginning to cope with hormonal changes. They're also hitting a time when peers will have the most influence on them. They want to be poised and have self-control, but they are often clumsy and in conflict.
We can thank hormones and puberty for a lot of these behavior changes. While preteen boys can certainly be moody as well, I notice that girls often start noticing this irritability sooner. This is likely because girls tend to start puberty a little bit earlier than boys, typically around age 11.
At ages 9-12, tweens aren't children anymore, but they're not young adults either. Your kids may suddenly start to push against boundaries during their tween years. Tween behavior commonly includes sarcastic remarks, eye-rolling, backtalk, sudden outbursts, door slamming, and sullen silences.
If your tween's mood fluctuates like a barometer, it's probably nothing to worry about. Tweens and mood swings just go together. In fact, it's perfectly normal for tweenagers to scroll through a variety of emotions, all in one day.
For children, anger issues often accompany other mental health conditions, including ADHD, autism, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and Tourette's syndrome. Genetics and other biological factors are thought to play a role in anger/aggression. Environment is a contributor as well.
In most cases, the increase in attitude from tweens and teens can be attributed to: Changes occurring in the tween and teen brain causing increased impulsivity and heightened emotions, leading them to get overly angry or sad and out of proportion to the event (from the parent's perspective).
A child who displays controlling behavior may be telling you something about who he or she is or what he needs. Alternatively, controlling behavior may be telling you that your child is in desperate need for more consistent limits and structure.
6-12 years old: should go to sleep between 7:30 and 8:30 pm. 13-18 years old: should go to sleep around 10:00 pm. Bare in mind that once puberty hits, it will be difficult for teenagers to fall asleep until around 11 pm.
If your child is between 9 and 11 years old:
Their attention span is between 20 and 30 minutes. After this, it's time to refocus unless the activity is highly engaging. Use simple and short instructions and be aware of reading levels. They are easily motivated and eager to try new things.
Disrespectful behavior often comes down to kids having poor problem-solving skills and a lack of knowledge about how to be more respectful as they pull away. Often when kids separate from you they do it all wrong before they learn how to do it right.
They're exploring their independence: As children grow older, they want to assert their independence and autonomy. This means that they'll start pushing against rules and boundaries that they feel are constricting their freedom.
It can make them behave badly or get physically sick. Children react to angry, stressed parents by not being able to concentrate, finding it hard to play with other children, becoming quiet and fearful or rude and aggressive, or developing sleeping problems.
Anxiety may present as fear or worry, but can also make children irritable and angry. Anxiety symptoms can also include trouble sleeping, as well as physical symptoms like fatigue, headaches, or stomachaches. Some anxious children keep their worries to themselves and, thus, the symptoms can be missed.
Their Behavior Is Dangerous to Themselves or Others
When a child has anger issues, their behavior impacts everyone around them. They may throw themselves on the ground and pound their fists or lash out at anything within reach. Your child may throw toys or look for something to hit or break while they are angry.
It's normal for children to feel worried or anxious from time to time – such as when they're starting school or nursery, or moving to a new area. But for some children, anxiety affects their behaviour and thoughts every day, interfering with their school, home and social life.