The Psychology of a Hater is a book designed to help readers understand the psychology behind why people hate. This book will outline The Ego vs. Super Ego, how people hold grudges plus why people should not give away their power.
People might begin to hate another person or group when they: Feel envy or want what the other person has. They may consider it unfair that someone has what they lack. Have contempt for another person or believe them to be inferior.
The single, most important reason to ignore the haters and go on with your business is simple—you deserve better. If someone purposefully treats you unkindly, they don't deserve to upset you. Continue choosing to see the world through your rose-colored glasses.
If you think someone is just wanting to be heard you can simply say “thank you for sharing” or “I appreciate your perspective” If you think someone is wanting to be a back-handed hater say “thanks for sharing” or “we all have our opinions”, or just delete the comment and leave it at that.
From the interaction between these two variables—the replaceability or irreplaceability of the target and the determinacy or indeterminacy of the focus of concern—four types of hate can be obtained: normative, ideological, retributive, and malicious.
A hater may not experience much kindness or positivity because they don't usually put a lot of good vibes out into the world. The majority of the people they launch envy attacks against will respond to them in ways that are hostile or angry. If you're the person who disarms a hater, it's not just good for you.
The best thing you can do is always be polite, even to someone open about hating you. The reason is that you'll show others you can be the right person and that you can be the bigger person if it comes down to it.
According to social scientists and psychologists, haters are individuals who think and believe that they know the path to success but fail to get there. So, when they see someone close to them getting the limelight and achieving their goals, they begin to display resentment and jealousy.
"Many times people who are not particularly fond of you have a hard time making eye contact," Craig said. "These individuals often seem distracted or disconnected while speaking and engaging with you. Their eyes may shift to other things happening around you which indicates a lack of respect and attention."
The real reason you're attracting haters is because the haters are mirroring back hatred that you have for yourself that you've repressed. The reason haters are picking up on your energy is because we all have a particular energy that we project out into the world, which has been proven by science.
At their core, according to Parks, haters hate due to insecurities, low self-esteem, and deep envy. They see others doing better than them, compare themselves to others, and lash out in myriad forms, including via social media, whisper campaigns, mobbing (forming a group to bully), and even physical violence.
There are two factors at the root of hatred: the devalua- tion of the victim and the ideology of the hater. Both of these factors mould and expand hatred. They reduce empathy, because the hater moves increasingly away from the object of their hatred.
When someone's jealous about something, they usually turn their jealousy into bashing just to make them feel better. It's the only way they can think of to get back at those who have more or who have been more successful. If they bash you and you can't find any apparent reason, they're usually jealous of you.
