Start slow. When it's the first time you're kissing someone, it's always best to take your time. Your bodies don't know each other yet, obviously, and exploring can be a lot of fun. Going slow also means you give the other person time to react if they don't like something – and if they do!
A good first kiss validates the attraction between two people and confirms that sexual chemistry exists. After a good first kiss, I should know whether I want to sleep with you. Not every first kiss, though, is a great kiss. They can be awkward, especially if the moment is not right or even forced.
First kisses are often awkward because both people are still getting to know each other, and your kissing will improve with practice. You can take a break and try another time when it feels right. Even if it doesn't go well, you should still gently pull away from the person and move on.
Your first kiss won't be a 20 minute make-out session. You will most likely have a five second (if that) kissing session that will consist of two lips puckered that touch each other with some suction. That's it. You'll release, look into each other's eyes and you'll think it's magical.
Today, an average kiss lasts more than 12 seconds. In the 1980s, couples came up for air sooner than that: back then an average kiss lasted a mere 5.5 seconds.
In John Gottman's relationship research, he was able to find that six seconds is the length of a kiss that can actually create a connection with your partner. In fact, he recommends you have at least one six-second kiss per day. John calls the six-second kiss “a kiss with potential.”
Your first kiss might feel like a high-pressure situation — a moment you'll think a lot about before it happens. But that doesn't mean it should be something you need to worry about. The most important thing is to make sure that both you and the person you're kissing are happy and comfortable.
What to say after a kiss? Anything you want, or nothing at all! A simple smile is often more than enough. Thanks!
Keep your mouth soft and relaxed.
Both a cranked-open jaw and a closed-mouth, hard pucker aren't the most pleasant to smooch. Keep your lips just-apart enough, allowing the kisses to be soft and deep, and keep your mouth relaxed. You want to see where the kiss takes you.
That first passionate kiss causes dopamine to spike in the brain. It's a give-me-more insatiable hormone all about pleasure; when we first fall in love and have those over-the-moon thoughts, that's dopamine. Incidentally, it affects the same part of the brain as cocaine, making us crave for more.
Interestingly, this is largely agreed upon across generations. No need to wait for the official first date to get a little face time, however. Americans agree kids are ready for their first kiss at age 15 (15.1 on average), while on average, they had theirs at age 14.5.
Around ages 12-15, people often start having their first kiss. Don't feel pressured by other people your age kissing people, and don't rush into kissing someone if you are apprehensive. You'll know intuitively when the time feels right.
Wait until the next date if you don't feel comfortable yet.
Many people wait until the second or third date for their first kiss, so don't get discouraged if you don't get one on your first date.
New research shows how your personality is reflected in your first kiss. The first kiss is a landmark event in the lives of most individuals. You probably remember where you were at the time, who your partner was, and who initiated that all-important first expression of sexuality and affection.
Slow and steady does it
Slow kissing can feel emotionally loaded and intense. But banging foreheads and smashing teeth can kill the mood. Try to relax and move slowly to avoid those awkward face-crashes. Going slowly also centers you in your body and allows you to check in with how you feel.
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Whilst bad breath, a darting tongue and a wet sloppy kiss are rated as the biggest kissing turn-offs according to science, it might also be your smell, taste or even your pheromones that's causing the problem. Being a bad kisser can be a deal breaker, but kissing is more complicated than most people think.
It's perfectly normal to be nervous before that delicious first kiss. It means that you're excited, and that's a good thing. And just remember, chances are they're just as nervous as you are.