5. Lean into body language. Beyond showing off your pearly whites, body language goes a long way when flirting. Murray suggests “leaning towards them with your body” and “having your feet face them so you are looking at them.” It's an easy way to signal openness and let the other person know you're interested.
Some flirting signals are obvious, like touching, and other flirting signs, like eye contact or compliments, are more subtle. Actions that you think might just be friendly gestures can actually indicate romantic interest.
Compliment things the other person likes.
Listen to music she puts on, or foods she likes, then give some vague approval like “Good call. I love this song.” This can also work when paying simple compliments. A polite “I like that shirt” or “You look nice today” suggests you are paying attention to what she is doing.
Keep your body language open and relaxed. The key to good flirting often comes down to how you present yourself. Stand or sit with your shoulders back and your arms at your sides (or, at least, not across your chest). Do your best to look friendly and open, and offer a genuine smile when you're flirting.
In his book he examines five key styles: polite, playful, sincere, and traditional. Take the quiz here to see which one you are. There is no right or wrong way to flirt, but according to author Jeffrey Hall there are five different styles.
Clues to spot flirting are body language, such as smiling, leaning forward, and touching, and verbal cues such as compliments or references to being available. You can also ask yourself if the person's behavior is consistent over time and whether they act differently with you than they do with others.
Make eye contact -- then look away
“Making eye contact and holding it just a few seconds longer than a casual glance causes him to take notice of you and start to wonder what you may have meant by that,” says Lieberman. “It's the cool 'silent flirt' that can make him want to know more.”
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She's definitely flirting if she looks at you frequently, teases you, touches you when she's excited or happy, or texts you random, funny things. She might be flirting if she laughs at your stories, calls you nicknames, makes up excuses to talk to you, or adjusts her body language toward you.
He may even linger his hand near yours when passing you a pencil or he may brush up against you, put his hand on the small of your back, or just sit extra close to you so your knees or feet touch. If he seems to always be looking for excuses to touch you, then he probably is flirting with you.
The eyes 👀
It's true: Your eyes really say so much. I like to use the eyes emoji when I'm feeling bold and most often when I'm swiping up on a hottie's thirst trap Instagram selfie.
Subtle flirting involves conveying interest in a more understated and indirect way. It may involve using subtle cues such as prolonged eye contact, smiling, or mirroring the other person's body language. Subtle flirting can be a good way to express interest without being too overt or pushy.
===> Let's make a distinction between flirting, seductiveness, and cybersex. Flirting is the twinkle and grin you give to someone, in person; it's just playful and has no intent beyond that grin. Seductiveness is action that announces sexual intent, even enticement.
Playful- individuals with this flirting style tend to flirt in a way that is playful and lighthearted. As such, they are generally not concerned with how others may interpret their behavior, and they often view flirting as a behavior that is inherently satisfying, even if it doesn't lead to anything serious.
It's flirting for the sake of flirting, for a shared feel-good factor. They draw the line: Natural flirts know when and where to stop. They will not lead someone on... They draw the line: Natural flirts know when and where to stop.
Any compliment you give is going to sound more natural coming out your mouth if you mean it. If you tell someone 'nice shoes' and they've got faux fur Crocs on – they might be able to tell by the look on your face that it's not totally genuine. Part of how to flirt is coming across as cool to be around – so be genuine!
😏 Smirking Face especially implies, however, flirtation and sexual innuendo.