Four ways to talk to a narcissist about narcissistic behavior.
Ask Clarifying Questions. A good way to diplomatically call someone's attention to his or her narcissistic behavior is to ask clarifying questions. ...
Use Humor and Wit. ...
Separate the Behavior from the Person. ...
Ask Directly Whether the Individual Is a Narcissist.
How do you make a narcissist Realise they are wrong?
Ask them questions about their faulty logic. Narcissists say unbelievable or strange things without realizing it. A simple clarifying question directed back at them will give them pause. They'll often do a total 180 and change opinions, ideas, or stories when they realize how bizarre their claims were.
The best way to shut down a narcissist is to walk away from them. If all else fails, you can physically remove yourself from the conversation. Even if they keep talking, simply turn around and walk away. If they follow you, close the door.
Truth 1: Narcissists fall in love with their fantasy of you.
They fall in love with their projections of whomever they currently idealize as the perfect mate. They can sound convincingly in love, but that is because they temporarily believe in the fantasy version of you created in their mind.
There's nothing a narcissist fears more than being left alone. Block their phone number, unfriend them on social media, and don't even acknowledge their presence if you're ever in the same room with one another. This won't just scare a narcissist—it will devastate them.
Shrugging off the praise, as if it doesn't matter to them. Attempting to one-up their success. Getting angry and telling you that you should be with that person instead. Discrediting the praise and blaming the person for lying, stealing, or manipulating.
Although narcissists act superior, entitled and boastful, underneath their larger-than-life facade lies their greatest fear: That they are ordinary. For narcissists, attention is like oxygen. Narcissists believe only special people get attention.
Narcissists thrive on getting attention, feeling special, and having control. He is an expert at getting an emotional reaction out of you – good or bad – because it makes him feel powerful and better than you.
Narcissists will often tell stories about themselves - sometimes repeating the same story over and over again - and many times, the story will be about an instance of personal heroism or an exploit. But even when a story is of something negative that happened, it'll never be the narcissist's fault.
They will never recognize your hard work, they will only remind you how they played a part in your success. The ability to truly trust others- Oddly enough, narcissists are unable to believe what other people say or do.
In addition to deflecting blame, they will devalue you and make you wish you had never confronted them. Devaluing is a huge part of the narcissistic relationship. When it comes to devaluing you, catching them in a lie will be no different than dealing with any other conflict.
