It's natural to be nervous about French kissing someone, especially if you haven't done it before. You don't have to worry, though, because while it may seem complicated, it's actually quite simple and comes naturally. A French kiss involves touching your partner's tongue with your own in a long, deep kiss.
A French kiss, also known as cataglottism or a tongue kiss, is an amorous kiss in which the participants' tongues extend to touch each other's lips or tongue. A kiss with the tongue stimulates the partner's lips, tongue and mouth, which are sensitive to the touch and induce sexual arousal.
Gently sweep the lip of your tongue over their lips or insert your tongue slightly between their lips to signal you want to add tongue to the kiss. If they respond with an open mouth, use your tongue lightly and gently to explore their lips, tongue, and mouth.
Kissing with the tongue, commonly known as French Kissing, is extremely common. But, like many intimate activities, you will come across some who really enjoy it, and some that despise it. French Kissing, though, is generally considered more popular than not. It may, however, be more common among the more comfortable.
US scientists have found that modern man uses smooch to pick up traces of oestrogen in a woman's saliva and thus gauge her fertility. Anthropologist Helen Fisher of Rutgers University says that such behaviour may explain why men like wet kisses with more “tongue action”.
Men in general seem to like wet kisses with more "tongue action," said anthropologist Helen Fisher of Rutgers University.
The thought of touching someone's tongue with your own tongue — and doing it with minimal drool — can sound weird or tricky. What if you thrust it in too hard? What do you do with it once it's in there? Don't sweat it because with a bit of practice, French kissing will come naturally.
Most people can't focus on anything as close as a face at kissing distance so closing your eyes saves them from looking at a distracting blur or the strain of trying to focus. Kissing can also make us feel vulnerable or self-conscious and closing your eyes is a way of making yourself more relaxed.
You get all giddy.
A rush of dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin hits your system the moment your lips lock. With this positive cocktail and a heart-fluttering kiss, you'll feel like you're on cloud nine! Lips are one of your body's most sensually sensitive areas.
It has been found that when couples French kiss, gently entwining their tongues with one another, there is an increase in the production of oxytocin, which is a hormone associated with building bonds with someone special to us.
It is common to give air kisses on both cheeks (starting with your left) when greeting those you know well. This is called the 'il bacetto'. However, in Southern Italy, men generally only kiss family members and prefer to give a pat on the back to show affection in a greeting.
Wet kisses could also be an unconscious attempt to transfer testosterone to the woman, which would stimulate her sexual interest, Fisher said Friday at a meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science in Chicago. "Men see kissing early in a relationship directly as a step to copulation," she said.
An American kiss, just like a French kiss, involves deep kissing but without the use of tongue.
You can either begin by placing it above or below your partner's tongue, or even move it around the tongue a bit if you're feeling bold. Just make sure your partner's tongue is reciprocating your actions so you're not just kissing a limp tongue, or the romance will dissipate pretty quickly.
Don't press them together tightly, but also avoid opening them too wide. Drooling and too much saliva is almost always a turn-off for men and women. On the other hand, some women and men like steamy, sloppy, wet kissing. A kiss basically boils down to what the couple finds passionate.
He smiles during or after.
Smiling while smooching might be an indication he's not only happy to be kissing you right now, but that he's been wanting to kiss you for some time, and is overcome with elation and a sense of victory.
In the field of kissing there are no – or very few – objective truths, although “sticking the tongue fast and straight in” is unlikely to be a good idea. But in general one person's pleasurable amount of tongue will be another's too much – or too little – so just work out what style you enjoy.
Move your lips towards him slowly, closing your eyes at the last second. You need to be able to see so that you can aim for his lips, but you don't want to keep your eyes open while you kiss, so close them right before your lips lock. Keep your eyes closed during the whole kiss.
In terms of which cheek to start with, there is never a right answer as it depends on the region but in Paris and in the majority of France, you go to the left, kissing the other person's right cheek first. You can also coordinate with the person in the moment.