If you are looking for a long-term relationship, an introvert can be a good choice as they make for loyal and loving partners according to relationship experts. They may not be conversation-starters, but they may have the best things to say.
Most introverted people tend to have a small group of people they focus all their love and attention on, rather than spreading it across countless acquaintances. That means you're going to get a much higher proportion of our energy and attention (and therefore love) than with someone who's more of a social butterfly.
Just like anyone else, we long for the perfectly loving and harmonious relationship, but being introverts, we may fear the conflict, friction, and energy drain that often comes with being close with another person.
10. Introverts Are Loyal. Because every social and romantic relationship is a higher energy investment for introverts, they tend to be extremely loyal and appreciate loyalty in return. Because of their investment, they might see the loss of a relationship or it being in turmoil as more of a threat than you do.
Discussion. Consistent with our original hypothesis, extraversion was a significant predictor of singlehood status, with introverted being more likely than extroverted people to be involuntarily single and to experience longer spells of singlehood.
Introverts are good at reading people and understanding social cues. People are naturally attracted to people who seem to understand them. All too often, they misunderstand an extrovert's love of social interactions as proficiency at reading people and understanding those interactions.
Introverts show their love by making you their go-to person for almost everything. Be it something happy or sad, the first person they want to confide in is you. You are the first person they want to share their feelings with because you probably have a great influence on this person's life and you on theirs.
When they feel that the person they are interacting with shares similar preferences and insights (for any topic or matter), those introverts become excited to share more of their thoughts. They might end up talking a lot, especially if it's something that the introvert is truly passionate about.
Casual sex is sometimes a no-go.
In other words, according to Dembling, introverts “like to jump into the deep end.” Rather than devoting their time and social energy to someone they're never going to see again, introverts commonly favor being around those they've cultivated an intimate, personal relationship with.
Sharing their interests in detail. Confessing something personal but small as a way of letting down their guard. Not wanting to end the conversation with you. Finding something they find interesting about you and rolling with it.
They actually don't flirt
The first clue to finding out if an introvert is flirting with you is that they won't flirt with you in an obvious way. They'll try to make a good conversation while you're around them and make sure that you have a good time, but that's it.
It's yet another form of (dreaded) small talk.
One of the main reasons some introverts don't like texting is because they don't like small talk — and that includes small talk through texting.
According to Eysenck's theory, introverts have naturally high levels of arousal. Because of these high arousal levels, introverts tend to seek activities and environments where they can escape from overstimulation. Alone time gives them the opportunity to process and reflect on what they have learned.
Introverts get annoyed by small talk. Since conversations require energy, they often prefer conversations that allow them to go deeper in their relationships with other people. Small talk and vapid conversations about the weather and current events can seem tedious, draining, and even annoying.
Introverts are generally more attuned to expressing love in nonverbal ways and don't tolerate sentimentality. They also need more time to express their affection, so patience is very important at the beginning of the relationship.
Independence. Unique and fiercely independent, introverts are more inclined to let their own inner resources guide them than follow the crowd. We do our best work — and are our happiest — when we have the freedom to explore ideas, spend time alone, and be self-directed and independent.
If an introvert is jealous, they are more naturally inclined to internalize the green monster. Instead of being outward and upfront about it, they may admire you from afar and copy your work or lifestyle. Ludwig states that extreme copying reveals the individual's low self-esteem and inferiority complex.
Although there are times when introverts enjoy the rush of physical affection, other times, when they are drained or tired, touch can feel invasive and overstimulating. On the other hand, extroverts gain energy when they are close to others, so physical contact with their partner is a pick-me-up.
Introverts in distress won't always choose solitude, but if their emotional discomfort is caused by anger, they may seek to isolate themselves from everyone else in the house or building. Angry Introverts are in a sensitive state, and they can easily become overstimulated by too much social contact.
Perhaps the toughest part of being an introvert is not so much talking about yourself, but rather wishing you were better at talking about yourself.