Disrespectful behavior often comes down to kids having poor problem-solving skills and a lack of knowledge about how to be more respectful as they pull away. Often when kids separate from you they do it all wrong before they learn how to do it right.
Sometimes disrespectful behaviour might be a sign that your child is feeling stressed or feeling anxious. Teenagers are also starting to think and feel more deeply about things. Some young people seem to have a conflicting and radical view on everything, and they might question previously held beliefs.
Disrespectful Child Behavior Parents Should NOT Ignore
Make no mistake, when true disrespect is directed toward a specific parent or sibling and it's demeaning and rude, it has to be dealt with immediately. If your child doesn't see the line between disrespect and mild rebelliousness, you need to talk with him.
For children, anger issues often accompany other mental health conditions, including ADHD, autism, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and Tourette's syndrome. Genetics and other biological factors are thought to play a role in anger/aggression. Environment is a contributor as well.
Tell him that you expect him to be considerate towards others, even when he isn't fond of them. Avoid being harsh: When a child is mean, a parent's first reaction is to scold and punish. Yelling or punishing your child will only intimidate or humiliate her and make her feel angry and resentful.
Cultural, generational, and gender biases, and current events influencing mood, attitude, and actions, also contribute to disrespectful behavior. Practitioner impairment, including substance abuse, mental illness, or personality disorder, is often at the root of highly disruptive behavior.
Some examples of these behaviors include stealing things, destroying things, ignoring rules or laws, threatening other people, picking arguments for no reason, choosing not to cooperate on purpose, or lying without any remorse.
Specifically, children may behave defiantly in an attempt to control a situation where they feel anxious and helpless. Researchers have labeled this form of defiant or disruptive behavior as “reactive aggression” [7].
Parents who overindulge a child with too much praise and attention do sometimes create an arrogant child. This mainly has the potential to occur when the child is proficient in one specific area, such as sports or academics.
Behaviors include frequent tantrums, excessive arguing with adults, and refusal to comply with an adult's requests or rules. A child may try to annoy or upset people and may harbor anger or resentment. These symptoms may be more noticeable at home or at school, but they can be present in many places.
Emotional regulation can be challenging for children with ADHD, and bouts of anger are common. In fact, it's estimated that anywhere between 40–65 percent of children diagnosed with ADHD also have a condition called Oppositional Defiant Disorder, or ODD, which includes anger as one of its symptoms.
It can make them behave badly or get physically sick. Children react to angry, stressed parents by not being able to concentrate, finding it hard to play with other children, becoming quiet and fearful or rude and aggressive, or developing sleeping problems.
The reasons behind disrespectful behavior include the perfectly normal and healthy process of your child growing up and away from his identity as a younger child. Teens naturally seek more independence as they get older, and mild disrespect is one way that independence gets expressed.
