Why do I feel attracted to someone who doesn't like me?

Romantic rejection stimulates parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward, addiction, and cravings. Being romantically rejected can be a familiar feeling that mirrors one's childhood, leading that person to seek out more of the same.

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Why do I feel attracted to someone I don't like?

Simultaneously feeling attraction and hate often stems from transferring a feeling one has for one person onto another. Attraction fused with hate may be fueled by fears of rejection, past relationship trauma, social competition, or other insecurities.

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Why am I attracted to someone who isn't interested in me?

We Crave Attachment

Attachments feel good and we want more, more, more." Even though we know someone doesn't like us, it's hard to stop fixating on them and move on to a more worthy candidate. If you feel any sort of attachment to someone, it's normal to crave more of that feeling, even if doesn't make sense.

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Why do I like someone who doesn't like me?

More often than not, when we're really attracted to someone, but they don't like us nearly as much in return, it's because we are in that space of insecurity, neediness and unworthiness. We feel like we're not good enough and we're nervous about being rejected.

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Can you get turned on by someone you don't like?

Your sexual interest in someone doesn't mean you're in love with them, even if they often come as a packaged deal. There are various factors that contribute to sexual attraction and desire ranging from scent to hormones to facial symmetry.

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Why the people YOU LIKE DON'T like you BACK: how attraction messes with your head

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What causes intense chemistry with someone?

Chemistry is born of several different factors like physical attraction, mental stimulation, shared values and interests.

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How do you stop being attracted to someone who doesn't like you?

How to Stop Being Attracted to Someone Who's Not Good for You
  1. Figure out what the heck you are so attracted to in that person who isn't good for you. ...
  2. Counter sexual, romantic or positive thoughts with immediate negative ones. ...
  3. Think about the qualities of your best friends. ...
  4. Write about your romantic penchants.

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Why do I chase guys who don't want me?

The answer is Dopamine. A drug like chemical that pulsates the body in search of pleasure. The dopamine-driven reward loop triggers a rush of euphoric drug-like highs when chasing a crush and the desire to experience them repeatedly.

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Why am I obsessed with someone I barely know?

Sometimes we think about someone we barely know constantly because we just can't figure them out. They are an unending mystery and full of pleasant surprises. It could be the way they seem wise beyond their years or the way they carry themselves, or the way they won't tell you everything on their mind.

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Can you sense when someone doesn't like you?

They have a closed body language

You can often see such differences between introverts and extroverts too. People who like you lean towards you and engage in conversation. Meanwhile, not looking you in the eyes, leaning away from you, and crossing their arms or legs or both are signs that they don't like you.

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Why am I so drawn to someone?

The same interests and values may also be a powerful way people are drawn to someone. When two people have similar hobbies, goals, or beliefs, it might create a sense of connection and compatibility. Emotional connection is another reason why people may feel drawn to each other.

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Why do I always fall for someone I can't have?

Romantic rejection can lead to increased yearning because it stimulates parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward, addiction, and cravings. New research also suggests the reasoning individuals fall for the unavailable may actually be scientific, some people cant help it.

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Why are we drawn to certain people?

We're commonly attracted to those who remind us of loved ones, such as parents, former significant others, or friends. “Subconsciously, hormones are activated because the other person has triggered some kind of similarity or resemblance,” says Beverly B. Palmer, Ph.

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Why can't I stop thinking about someone I don't even like?

Often, thinking about the same things over and over again may be related to stress. Sometimes, though, it may be a clinical symptom of a mental health challenge. Having recurring thoughts about someone and not being able to stop at will doesn't immediately mean you have a mental health condition.

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Can you control who you're attracted to?

The truth is that while many factors can spark sincere attraction, we still cannot force ourselves to desire someone. "It's quite common to fall in love with someone you've known, but not for it to be someone you've known and wanted to fall in love with," Aron says.

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How do you know if attraction is mutual?

As mentioned in the article above, signs of mutual attraction can include frequent communication, physical touch, prolonged eye contact, mirroring, blushing, and flirtatious behavior. If the attraction is mutual between you and another person, you'll likely want to talk to each other rather frequently.

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Why am I suddenly obsessed with one person?

Obsessive love can cause a person to fixate on their loved one as though they are an object or possession. This can have many causes, ranging from mental health issues to delusional disorders. Health professionals do not widely recognize obsessive love, or “obsessive love disorder,” as a mental health condition.

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Why am I obsessed with people I can't have?

An obsession, especially with someone you can't have, can be all-consuming, It can seriously affect your everyday life and even lead to anxiety and depression. Sometimes obsessive thoughts stem from conditions like OCD. Whilst others come from unfulfilled desires or a strong attachment to someone.

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Why do I always want people who don't want me?

Romantic rejection stimulates parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward, addiction, and cravings. Being romantically rejected can be a familiar feeling that mirrors one's childhood, leading that person to seek out more of the same.

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How do I stop chasing a guy who isn't interested?

Stop chasing him – The best strategies to stop your madness
  1. Go for a walk. ...
  2. Let him come to you. ...
  3. Call a friend. ...
  4. Breathe deeply and reason through it. ...
  5. Write it all down and then throw it away. ...
  6. Realize that nothing good ever comes from the chase. ...
  7. Leave him. ...
  8. Shut down to save yourself.

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How do you make him chase you even if he is not interested?

21 Ways To Make Him Chase You
  1. Stop chasing him. The first rule in the 'chasing game' is to stop chasing your man. ...
  2. Work on yourself. Save. ...
  3. Have a life of your own. ...
  4. Show limited interest. ...
  5. Don't lose it when he pulls back. ...
  6. Follow your passion. ...
  7. Set a goal in life. ...
  8. Love your unique self.

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Why am I so intensely attracted to him?

Immediately having very intense sexual feelings for someone often comes from a primitive — and dysfunctional — set of feelings and beliefs. People who feel extreme sexual attraction often have a history of psychological trauma, neglect, or addictive tendencies.

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Why do I keep attracting unavailable guys?

Research has demonstrated that we are often attracted to partners who seem familiar to us and have similar qualities to our parents. One of the reasons people are drawn to emotionally unavailable partners is due to the role models they had for romantic relationships in childhood.

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Why do I fall for emotionally unavailable guys?

Key points. Women who fall for unavailable men usually feel that they are more committed to the relationship than the men are. Women who fall for unavailable men most often have profound insecurities, believing if the man eventually commits, they will finally be "worthy."

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