"My friends think you don't like them." I love your friends, it just takes me time to open up to new people. 1. "You're so quiet." I know.
Big Crowds
Swarms of strangers can be a fear for many people for various reasons, but it is particularly common for anxious introverts. Introverts gather their energy from being alone, but that doesn't mean the “all alone in a crowd of people” thing always works.
One of the main reasons some introverts don't like texting is because they don't like small talk — and that includes small talk through texting. When I'm talking to someone about a deep topic or something I'm passionate about, then texting doesn't feel like a burden.
Independence. Unique and fiercely independent, introverts are more inclined to let their own inner resources guide them than follow the crowd. We do our best work — and are our happiest — when we have the freedom to explore ideas, spend time alone, and be self-directed and independent.
Introverts may hide their inner feelings or excitement, but that doesn't mean they can't express themselves creatively.
Introverts can become temporarily disillusioned by incidents that leave them feeling slighted, disrespected, overlooked, or mistreated. For a few hours they may become disillusioned not just with the person who caused their anger, but with humanity in general.
Yes, emotional trauma can cause a person to become a lot more introverted. Along with something as small as a loud noise more traumatic events can clearly change the way that someone acts.
Introverts tend to be quiet and subdued. They dislike being the center of attention, even if the attention is positive. It's not surprising that introverts don't brag about their achievements or knowledge. In fact, they may know more than they'll admit.
Introverts prefer quiet, minimally stimulating environments, while extroverts need higher levels of stimulation to feel their best. Stimulation comes in all forms – social stimulation, but also lights, noise, and so on.
74% of introverts “don't like” (or they use stronger words) small talk. Interestingly 23% of extroverts don't like small talk, so small talk isn't just an introvert thing – but it mainly is. If you've ever wondered why introverts hate small talk, read on.
They are trustworthy.
They “process feelings, not only their own, but others' as well, in an earnest and thorough way,” says Jones. Because of this, they are more understanding and really understand their dates' feelings. Being aware makes introverts synced up with their dates.
Being asked to speak during a meeting, a surprise party or trip, or unexpectedly running into an acquaintance at the store can feel overwhelming to an introvert. Introverts may also experience more stress when they don't have time to decompress or recharge themselves with some alone time.
Introversion isn't totally genetic. It gets influenced by your environment at a young age, and our genes allow a certain amount of flexibility in response. This happens through “set points,” which are the upper and lower limits of how much extroversion your brain can handle.
Reach out to them, but don't be pushy.
When you talk to an Introvert to ask them why they're ignoring you, do so with the utmost respect for their time and attention. Because Introverts prefer written communication, I'd suggest a text message or email. Don't demand anything. Ask if anything is bothering them.
When introverts get pissed off, they tend to “shut down.” This means that they will say as little as possible, usually in one word sentences. For example, “Yes,” “No,” “Fine,” and so on. This is because they're doing the least amount of social exertion possible in order to end the conversation as quickly as possible.
They Want You To Be A Bigger Part Of Their Everyday Life
An introvert loves you when they want you to be at their house hanging out, doing nothing but talking and ordering dinner on a Friday night, not when they want to take you out to parties and on fancy dates and change their online relationship status.
Studies have found that introverts get more easily distracted than their extroverted counterparts. Because of this, they might be annoyed when someone steps into their office for a quick chat. They also get annoyed by interruptions when they speak. Extroverts are often guilty of interrupting others while talking.