Stealing is a common tactic narcissists use to gain power and control over you. A survey we conducted among 300 survivors of narcissistic abuse revealed that the three most common things that a narcissist will steal from you is your money, time, and happiness.
Your identity
Through tactics such as gaslighting and love-bombing, a narcissist will make you question everything about yourself that you once were so sure of. They separate you from your intuition to the point where you become reliant on them to tell you who you are.
A person with narcissistic personality or narcissistic traits frequently uses manipulation tactics to influence and control others. Common examples of this include gaslighting, triangulation, love bombing, and many others.
Narcissists tend to hold onto objects that remind them of their exes as "trophies" — a way to brag about the relationship to others. A narcissist will often keep souvenirs from an old relationship because they have objectified their ex.
They want to be the center of your attention at all times. Make your narcissist work harder to impress you by giving some subtle, flirty attention to another person (It doesn't take much). A gentle touch on someone's arm while they're talking or some sugary compliments will trigger a narcissist's possessiveness.
Narcissists are frightened, fragile people.
Rejection, humiliation, and even the tiniest of defeats can shake them to their core. This leaves narcissists wholly focused on their image.
People who are impressive in some way, either in their career, hobbies and talents, their friendship circles, or family. Someone who will make the narcissist feel good about themselves, through compliments or gestures. Anyone who will reflect well on them in the eyes of other people.
They want to see how much they can destroy you
Rather, they just don't want to see other people happy. They don't want to put the work into maintaining everything themselves, which is why they don't stick around once they've destroyed their target's life.
Hiding assets.
Narcissists don't care what's fair. They go to great pains to hide marital assets, sometimes setting up secret accounts, “lending” money to friends, or stashing cash in safe-deposit boxes. Because they're so grandiose, they don't believe they'll ever get caught.
The best way to shut down a narcissist is to walk away from them. If all else fails, you can physically remove yourself from the conversation. Even if they keep talking, simply turn around and walk away. If they follow you, close the door.
They can be direct attacks through verbal or physical aggression or less confrontational reactions such as walking away during a conversation. Any situation where you're the recipient of blame or negativity could be an indication of a narcissistic injury such as: explosive arguments. gaslighting.
Bottom Line. Narcissists can sometimes be helpful and caring. However, more often than not, they only pretend to have these qualities. Moreover, even when they act giving and helping, they are not motivated by empathy because they severely lack it, and as a result, their help is often not very productive.
Narcissists hide who they are by managing their influence.
Due to projective identification, your feelings can reveal how abusers really feel and, in many cases, how they were treated as children. Narcissists hide their secret behind their abuse and bluster, their braggadocio, and their arrogance.
It is a misconception that narcissists target weak, vulnerable people because they will be easier to manipulate. They actually go for the exact opposite. They look for people who are confident, successful, attractive and strong-willed.
A narcissist will deliberately hurt you to make you feel weak so that they can feel superior, to regulate their emotions by projecting all of their negative one's onto you, and to bait you into an argument so that they can get more narcissistic supply.
They get jealous about everything
They talk a good game, but narcissists actually have very low self-esteem. Low self-worth/confidence/esteem is at the core of a narcissism. This low sense of self naturally makes it extremely easy for them to become jealous – very jealous.
Type As can also be dangerous to narcissists
Although they can be targeted, type A people can also become a narcissist's worst nightmare. One of the most important defenses against dark personalities is having strong boundaries yourself, and type A people are usually aware they have the right to build them.
Narcissists Will Eventually End Up Friendless and Unpopular, Study Confirms.