Because unhappy people are pessimists and feel a lack of control over their lives, they tend to sit back and wait for life to happen to them. Instead of setting goals, learning, and improving themselves, they just keep plodding along, and then they wonder why things never change.
One of the most common pitfalls that can make people unhappy is waiting. When you create prerequisites for happiness–thinking you'll be happy when you hit a sales goal, buy a home, get out of debt or start a new relationship–you deny yourself the ability to be happy in the present moment.
Depression is about being sad, sure—but it's more than that. Clinical depression is a mental health condition that involves a lot of symptoms, like feeling exhausted all the time, losing interest in activities you normally enjoy, or thoughts of death and suicide. Episodes of depression last at least 2 weeks at a time.
Everyone gets sad sometimes; it's a part of being human. But feeling sad for a long period of time makes life really hard and isn't good for your overall health. Here are some signs that sadness is taking over your life: You've stopped seeing friends and family.
Verbal overshadowing is the biggest cause of unhappiness.
But perhaps more interesting is what's scientifically proven to make us unhappy. It wouldn't take a genius to work out that tiredness, stress and loneliness are lead causes. But more surprising candidates include living at altitude and poor sibling relationships.
unhappy (adj.) c. 1300, "causing misfortune or trouble (to oneself or others)," from un- (1) "not" + happy. Meaning "unfortunate, unlucky" is recorded from late 14c.; sense of "miserable, wretched" is recorded from late 14c. (originally via misfortune or mishap).
Cherophobia is a phobia where a person has an irrational aversion to being happy. The term comes from the Greek word “chero,” which means “to rejoice.” When a person experiences cherophobia, they're often afraid to participate in activities that many would characterize as fun, or of being happy.
The most unhappy time of your life is your forties, according to a phenomenon known as the “u-shaped” curve which states that happiness bottoms out around your forties then trends back up as you grow older.
Everyone will experience sadness from time to time in the ups and downs of everyday life. However, a persisting period of sadness could point to a mental illness, including (but not limited to) depression and anxiety. If you have any concerns, please make an appointment to see your GP.
It's natural to feel more pessimistic when things aren't going so well in our lives. Regular or even constant negative thinking can also be a sign of anxiety, depression, stress or low self-esteem. This sounds a bit strange, but negativity can also be contagious.
feeling hopeless and helpless. having low self-esteem. feeling tearful. feeling guilt-ridden.
If you have been experiencing some of the following signs and symptoms most of the day, nearly every day, for at least two weeks, you may be suffering from depression: Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood. Feelings of hopelessness, or pessimism. Feelings of irritability, frustration, or restlessness.
Scientists have found that the three things that make people most happy are PLEASURE (doing things you enjoy), ENGAGEMENT (feeling interested in your activities and connected to others), and MEANING (feeling like what you do matters).
Do Regular Acts of Kindness. Research has shown that spending money on others makes us happier than spending money on ourselves and doing small acts of kindness increases life satisfaction.
A secret to a happy life is, contentedness: If we live in the present, we cherish our memories, appreciate ourselves for every little thing, and are grateful for what we have. We will live a happy and satisfying life. All we need to do is change our perspective of life.