You might be tempted to ignore your crush to avoid any awkwardness. However, the best way to feel comfortable around them again is to act like nothing happened. Chances are, your crush wants your friendship to feel normal again, too. Try to remember that everyone experiences rejection, even your crush!
If she rejects you, then you know she won't be yor romantic partner. She's not interested in you. However, if you want to stay as friends with her, of course you should keep talking with her! If you've fallen really hard for her, I would suggest separating yourselves until your crush on her fades away.
I wouldn't ignore him, but definitely don't go out of your way to give him attention. Live your life, invest in people who invest in you. Don't let his rejection sway your actions. Just take your energy and put it elsewhere.
Being ignored has the same effect in our brain as being rejected, according to science. However, its cause is something that you should worry about. Oscar Wilde said: “There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.”
Engage in conversations.
But you'll quickly get over the awkwardness after a little initial effort. Try to talk to him like you used to before he rejected you. If you struggle with this, try asking him questions about his life. This is a good way to get him to open up and for you to both move past what happened.
Most people start to feel better 11 weeks following rejection and report a sense of personal growth; similarly after divorce, partners start to feel better after months, not years. However, up to 15 percent of people suffer longer than three months (“It's Over,” Psychology Today, May-June, 2015).
Flirt with them and with others.
It could be helpful to occasionally flirt with your crush, to show them that you are playfully considering them. You don't want to only flirt with them or flirt with them frequently, though. Make it clear that your options are open and that you are considering other people.
Of course, emotional pain is only one of the ways rejections impact our well-being. Rejections also damage our mood and our self-esteem, they elicit swells of anger and aggression, and they destabilize our need to “belong.” Unfortunately, the greatest damage rejection causes is usually self-inflicted.
All that being said, it's perfectly fine to send a follow-up email after you get rejected. Although you could easily end the conversation there without a response, it can be a good way to show that you were truly interested in the position and are disappointed that it didn't work out. But be smart about it!
Try to be her friend only after you've gotten over the rejection. Spend some time apart to truly rid yourself of feelings for her before striking up a platonic friendship. If you're still hurt, you won't be able to properly focus on being a friend.
Because you have genuine feelings for her and that rejection means nothing in front of the feelings that you had for her. Being rejected by the person you love doesn't mean you need to un-love the person or get rid of them. You can still like them or you can still adore them the same way.
All women want to feel desired, and when you ignore her, you're sending the message that you find her irresistible. This may trigger her chase instinct and she could very well start to pursue you. And as much as you love a challenge, so do women. Of course, ignoring a woman is not without its risks.
A person can be rejected or shunned by individuals or an entire group of people. Furthermore, rejection can be either active, by bullying, teasing, or ridiculing, or passive, by ignoring a person, or giving the "silent treatment".
It can cause emotional trauma.
A person who is ignored feels a wide range of confusing emotions. They may feel anger, sadness, frustration, guilt, despair, and loneliness, all at once.
She might have rejected you because she was unsure of her feelings. But now she's realized that she's interested, and rather than outright ask you out, she's trying to get your attention again. So, if all the usual signs are there that she likes you, here's your opportunity!
Rejection can take a major toll on your self-esteem and often leads to deep emotional wounds and wounds in your spirit that open up doors that cause you to experience other negative emotions, including depression, fear, doubt, isolation, self-pity, suicidal thoughts, people pleasing, double-mindedness, eating disorders ...
Social rejection increases anger, anxiety, depression, jealousy and sadness. It reduces performance on difficult intellectual tasks, and can also contribute to aggression and poor impulse control, as DeWall explains in a recent review (Current Directions in Psychological Science, 2011).
Avoid rumination and instead affirm your self-worth.
After a rejection, we tend to beat ourselves up over the things that might have led us to be rejected — and might even end up dwelling on these negative emotions, a process called rumination.
The five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost.
So why can't we let go of people who continually reject us? According to Helen Fisher and her colleagues, the reason romantic rejection gets us hooked is that this sort of rejection stimulates parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward, addiction, and cravings.
"I really appreciate you letting me know and not ghost. I can tell you're such a great person, wish you the best." They could have very easily ghosted you. A "rejection text" is better than no text at all.