Postpone your answer. Don't give them an answer on the spot. ...
Question their motivations. Manipulators often hide their real motivations because they don't like to take responsibility for their own actions and behaviors. ...
The manipulator may experience physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual distress due to a guilty conscience and shame. The manipulator may feel stress and anxiety from having to constantly “cover” themselves, for fear of being found out and exposed.
Fragile self-esteem is one of the biggest manipulators' weaknesses. Most of the behavior of manipulators stems from their low self-esteem and they try to make up for it through their dark tactics. Generally, a manipulator is self-conscious about his abilities as an individual and has deep-seated insecurities.
Postpone your answer. Don't give them an answer on the spot. ...
Question their motivations. Manipulators often hide their real motivations because they don't like to take responsibility for their own actions and behaviors. ...
While most people engage in manipulation from time to time, a chronic pattern of manipulation can indicate an underlying mental health concern. Manipulation is particularly common with personality disorder diagnoses such as borderline personality (BPD) and narcissistic personality (NPD).
This starts with no longer responding to their techniques the way you used to. You say “no” if you don't want to, or speak your mind even if they don't like it. Work on feeling okay with how they might respond negatively. If it's not yours, don't pick it up.
Psychologists say the root cause of manipulative behavior can often be toxic cycles of violence, narcissism, or unhealthy relationships in the manipulator's own childhood.
In general, people manipulate others to get what they want, to protect their ego, and to avoid having to take responsibility for the consequences of their actions. They may feel the need to punish, control, or dominate their partner. They may be seeking pity or attention, or have other selfish motives.
Master manipulators often possess a high level of emotional intelligence and (manufactured) empathy. Of course, they aren't actually empathetic, but they know how to access it for their own benefit. They're very good at sensing other people's emotions and exploiting them to their advantage.
Manipulated? Toxic people love to manipulate those around them to get what they want. This means lying, bending the truth, exaggerating, or leaving out information so that you take a certain action or have a certain opinion of them. They'll do whatever it takes, even if it means hurting people.
Even some manipulators are sometimes not aware of their actions, so it can be really confusing to figure out when someone is a victim of manipulation. Manipulators often use fraudulent ways of gaining power over someone's emotions.
Manipulative people tend to sway personal opinions, always see their side of the situation, and may never let you have your own opinion because they are always pushing theirs. These toxic individuals tend to play the victim, never taking responsibility for their actions or any actions for that matter.
Manipulators hate boundaries. One day, one of my mentees asked me how she can easily know a manipulator in a relationship. My answer was gleaned from my many years of helping youths out of manipulative relationships: Manipulators will always get angry at you for setting boundaries!
In the study people who admitted to manipulating others maliciously scored higher on measurements of Machiavellianism and narcissism. People who admitted to faking things to get what they want, scored higher on measurements of Machiavellianism, narcissism and emotional intelligence.
