As a result, cheaters--and especially serial cheaters--may act impulsively, without concern for how their words or actions affect those around them. They may also deflect responsibility when confronted with their behavior rather than owning up to it and taking responsibility.
Cheaters may lie or deny what happened.
An unfaithful partner may completely deny what happened, or they may lie about specific details, such as how long the affair went on or whether it's still happening.
Defensiveness. One of the first things you would notice about a cheating partner is their tendency to be touchy and excessively defensive about the slightest matters in the relationship. If they feel pressured, they may respond to their partner with violence or different forms of manipulation.
Many people who cheat on their partners use secret messaging apps, like Signal, which allow them to chat with others discreetly. Depending on the cheating your partner is engaging in, whether sexual, emotional, or otherwise, there are different apps they might use to cheat or hide their behavior.
“I feel like karma finally caught up with me.”
It's also not unusual for the cheater who's been caught to feel that karma has caught up with them and repaid them for their actions in secret. They know their behavior, once discovered, would hurt their spouse or partner.
Sometimes, cheaters don't always have a guilty conscience. A lack of guilt or remorse can lead to a complete disregard for the consequences of our actions. As a result, cheaters--and especially serial cheaters--may act impulsively, without concern for how their words or actions affect those around them.
When a narcissist is caught cheating and lying, they often make up a heap of more lies to convince you that they've been nothing but faithful. Even if you have evidence of cheating, they're likely to deny everything and even project their infidelity onto you.
Secret messages and online documents
The most dangerous habit for cheaters is to send photos and videos. These media may spice things up, but they are vivid evidence of an affair. Such materials can be used as evidence in divorce proceedings – especially if a betrayed husband or wife can save or download copies.
Signs of cheating include a partner who improves their appearance, guards their phone, changes their schedule, and fades away emotionally. Someone could display several signs of cheating and still be faithful. Regardless, any such "signs" point to a breakdown in the relationship.
Strong partners
Most cheaters are afraid of being alone. Contradictory by nature, a cheating mate is actually terrified of his or her partner leaving. A strong spouse who is willing to walk away and have a life outside of the relationship is a scary scenario for an adulterer.
A cheater, however, may get defensive because you've blown their cover, says Milrad: “It is very common for cheaters to deflect responsibility and get irritated by your questions. They often try and shut you down and even criticize you for being too controlling or suspicious.”
Signs that your partner might be lying about cheating include changes in their behavior, changes in communication, less time spent at home, avoiding you, acting indifferent toward you, changes in your sex life, and increased technology use.
Common reactions include surprise and disbelief, denial of the accusation, anger and frustration, a desire to prove their innocence, and a willingness to cooperate with any efforts to investigate the situation.
According to Sussman, the most common justification cheaters use is that they weren't getting their needs met in the relationship.
According to a survey of 1,000 people on how affairs get exposed, 39% of the respondents said they were caught when their partner read a message or two on their phones.
They use Second Space. Where do cheaters hide things inside their phones though? Jayant answers, “One of the most popular ways on how cheaters hide their tracks is by using the Second Space feature which is similar to having a folder entirely away from your main phone's storage.
Because it is known to cause suspicion of cheating the solution for many cheaters is to turn off their notifications or hide them to avoid questions. ' Debbie encourages people to find out why their partner has hid their notifications, but to do so carefully.
Infidelity isn't limited to texting. Cheaters will often use laptops and tablets, and even hidden apps, to communicate with a paramour.
Cheating husbands may be defensive over the smallest things. They may seem unusually sensitive or touchy about things that seem harmless to you. If you ask an innocent question about what they had for lunch, they may snap at you and accuse you of being controlling or demanding.
An inability to bear the truth
Attorney Rebecca Zung writes about what happens when you catch a narcissist in a lie. They will either deny, deflect, devalue, and/or dismiss you.
You may receive verbal, emotional, mental, and financial attacks from the narcissist. The narcissist may start to attack your character, past and present actions to justify their cheating. They will use any and everything to defend their point and attack you.