Research clearly shows that dogs have the cognitive and emotional capacities to hold grudges. They remember events from the past and these memories can persist for a long while.
Dogs don't hold grudges. They only appear to if the humans around them react negatively, because then we're telling our dogs to do the same. So the next time you have to discipline or correct your dog, don't worry. She won't resent you for it.
The behavior that makes many people assume their dog is holding a grudge is more likely their response to a negative association. The dog isn't thinking back on the specific thing that made them upset, they're getting bad vibes from an associative memory.
Sam Gosling, a psychologist at the University of Texas and director of the Animal Personality Institute, says grudgelike behavior has been spotted in creatures as diverse as cuttlefish and great cats.
Typically when a dog sniffs a person they are uncomfortable with, it's due to the pheromones that person is giving off. To the dog, those pheromones may signal a threat or an alarm telling the dog to beware. Humans can also give off pheromones that reek of fear or nervousness to a dog.
In addition to not liking hugs, dogs also are often subjected to handling that can be stressful. Having strangers and even familiar humans reaching their hands right into a dog's face in an attempt to pet their head can feel very intimidating from a dog's point of view.
Research clearly shows that dogs have the cognitive and emotional capacities to hold grudges. They remember events from the past and these memories can persist for a long while.
Dogs Say Sorry
Masson says it's even possible that humans learned the art of apology from dogs. He also reminds us that dogs understand our apologies — when we accidentally step on their tail and say “I'm sorry” over and over again, we're usually rewarded with a lick on the hand that says “apology accepted.”
Studies have shown that revenge is in fact widespread among animals, from birds of the Galapagos, called blue-footed boobies, to elephant seals.
If they are hurt, do they harbor anger, resentment, and negative feelings in their canine psyche? Yes, in some capacity, dogs remember something negative that caused them harm.
It may seem that way, but there's always an underlying reason. Dogs don't purposefully disobey us to spite us. As they're unconditionally loving even when we step on their tail or serve dinner late, we must be patient with our dogs when they don't act as we expect.
They do not, really, recall specific instances in a similar way humans do. So, in all likelihood, a hound will not have built himself a memory of your specific misstep. You might be thinking your dog will forgive you. But, strictly speaking, he may not, in reality, forgive you, as much as forget such incident.
Your dog will know when you are mad.
Dogs hate to disappoint and can sense the emotions and body language that comes with an upset "parent". When you are upset with your dog and he gives you those "sweet puppy dog eyes" he knows that you are upset and is hoping to change things.
Our dogs are profoundly affected by our feelings, too. They can sense when we are sad, excited or nervous. But even though many dog parents understand this, and have their dog's welfare in mind, they may not realize that they're hurting their dog's feeling unintentionally.
Although dogs are extremely loyal, part of that loyalty comes from a self-preservation instinct, as they know that if their owner is hurt, their food and shelter arrangements are at risk. If you own a dog that comes from an abusive background, you may notice that he is extra protective.
One of the common ways your dog will try to say sorry is by making “puppy eyes” or tucking its tail between its legs. Avoiding eye contact and lowering their ears are also common ways for dogs to apologize.
If you want to apologize to your dog, talk to them calmly and soothingly with a slightly high-pitched voice, the one we tend to use when talking to babies or puppies. You don't have to say "sorry", but the words that you usually use to reward your dog when they behave correctly, such as "well done" or "good boy".
How long will a dog stay mad? For exactly as long as the thing making him mad is happening. Remember, dogs live in the moment and, unlike humans, they don't hold grudges.
Dogs that respect their owners never question their authority. They do as they're told without hesitation. If your dog refuses to get down or doesn't answer simple commands, such as “sit, “down,” or “come,” your dog doesn't respect you. The same goes if your pet doesn't listen to you.
Dogs' ability to communicate with humans is unlike any other species in the animal kingdom. They can sense our emotions, read our facial expressions, and even follow our pointing gestures.
Yelling at your dog does not work because it will just get him more stressed or it will only increase his energy level and how excited he is about the situation. Instead, your Bark Busters dog trainer can teach you how to use a calm yet firm voice to refocus your dog and to teach the desired behavior.
Have him move out of your way a few times a day. If he is lying down in a hallway, walk through him by gently shuffling your feet until he gets up and moves. The alpha never walks around his littermates. Don't let your dog treat you like a sibling, be the parent.