As they move toward puberty, their hormones begin to fluctuate, causing emotional instability. 1 Tweens also lack the emotional development to fully control their moods. In other words, they express exactly what they're feeling like they're feeling it.
Mood swings are a normal part of puberty
During puberty your child's emotions may become stronger and more intense. Their mood might change more frequently, quickly and randomly. Your child may have strong emotions that they've never experienced before.
Girls at the age of 12 years are usually polite to their parents and enjoy a close relationship with both parents. There may be occasional mood swings and they may tend to be aggressive, moody and downright rude when they turn 12 years old.
In most cases, the increase in attitude from tweens and teens can be attributed to: Changes occurring in the tween and teen brain causing increased impulsivity and heightened emotions, leading them to get overly angry or sad and out of proportion to the event (from the parent's perspective).
Emotional/Social Changes
Focus on themselves; going back and forth between high expectations and lack of confidence. Experience more moodiness. Show more interest in and influence by peer group. Express less affection toward parents; sometimes might seem rude or short-tempered.
Most kids have days when they feel sad, lonely, or depressed. But, if your child seems persistently sad or hopeless and it is affecting relationships, they may suffer from childhood depression, a serious mental health condition that needs medical assessment and treatment.
Disrespectful behavior often comes down to kids having poor problem-solving skills and a lack of knowledge about how to be more respectful as they pull away. Often when kids separate from you they do it all wrong before they learn how to do it right.
Both boys and girls experience physical, hormonal and emotional changes during this time. These changes are part of a process known as puberty. Many girls begin puberty at around 10, while boys often begin this process at around 11.
Emotionally absent or cold mothers can be unresponsive to their children's needs. They may act distracted and uninterested during interactions, or they could actively reject any attempts of the child to get close. They may continue acting this way with adult children.
What is Depleted Mother Syndrome (DMS)? In a nutshell, Depleted Mother Syndrome (DMS) occurs when demands on the mother increase, and her resources decrease. As a result of this imbalance, the mother's emotional sensitivity to both internal, and external triggers becomes heightened.
Feeling unloved as a child can have long-lasting effects from lack of trust to mental health conditions, but healing is possible. If you had an unloving childhood and your emotional needs went unmet by your caretakers, you're not alone. This experience is common, and the effects can run deep and long term.
Their emotions seesaw. They often goes from happy to sad, kind to rude, feeling smart to feeling short on confidence. They may also feel more stress because schoolwork is getting challenging. That's because their brain is able to handle more complex thinking now.
Teens crying about the hard things they go through is natural and healthy. In fact, if teens don't allow themselves to cry, they may instead express their emotions through anger and aggression, internalize them as self-judgment and self-criticism, or numb them with substance abuse or disordered eating.
Frequent mood swings are a hallmark of adolescence. During this period, it's normal for your teen to be more negative than when they were younger. And you can expect them to stay more negative for longer periods of time. Dramatic changes in their brain associated with puberty cause this negativity.
Disrespect from children and teens can be shown in a variety of ways - the most common being backtalk, complaining, arguing, attitude, or just plain ignoring.
Their Behavior Is Dangerous to Themselves or Others
When a child has anger issues, their behavior impacts everyone around them. They may throw themselves on the ground and pound their fists or lash out at anything within reach. Your child may throw toys or look for something to hit or break while they are angry.