Fear of strangers is very common. It happens as your baby develops a healthy attachment to familiar people – like you. Because babies prefer familiar adults, they might react to strangers by crying or fussing, going very quiet, looking fearful or hiding.
Sometimes babies cry when they see a certain person who is unfamiliar because their brains are beginning to understand stranger danger.
Stranger anxiety, explained
Babies can become very clingy and anxious around new and even familiar people and may cry if suddenly approached by a stranger. While it may be cringe-inducing for you as a parent, it's actually a very normal part of your baby's development.
Relax, it's normal. If baby cries with others (or with anyone but mom), it may be due to attachment, says Webb. Babies often see their primary caregiver as a “home base” of sorts, she explains, and they are only comfortable exploring the world when mom or dad is around.
This is a biological instinct that babies crave their mother's attention. When they see you, they expect you to immediately pay attention to them. Even if you're holding them and trying to comfort them, they may still cry.
In other words, Baby's fear (because by now, you know it's not hate, but fear) of Grandma is not really about gut instinct at all. It's not even about Grandma (or about hate). It's about Baby being sensitive to people with big personalities and needing some time to get used to a new person.
Studies show that, from the womb, babies respond to their own mom's voice differently than they do to other voices — their heartbeats accelerate, showing they're more attentive, more alert, more in tune with the sound of Mom.
Here's how it works: A baby who cries upon seeing her parent after a long separation is expressing his secure attachment to his parent.
And research suggests that babies evaluate people in much the same way, preferring people who like the same foods, clothes, and toys that they like. This preference helps us to form social bonds, but it can also have a dark side.
Studies have shown that infants as young as one month-old sense when a parent is depressed or angry and are affected by the parent's mood. Understanding that even infants are affected by adult emotions can help parents do their best in supporting their child's healthy development.
When children like some people more than others, it's not really because those people are more trustworthy; it's because like everyone else, children gravitate towards people who are happy and confident. People who believe they are attractive are usually more happy and confident.
A newborn baby's vision at birth is not so well developed as the sense of smell. This strong and unique sense of smell (learnt in utero by the baby) helps your little one to recognize your presence even from a distance after birth.
In fact, it's actually quite common for babies and toddlers to pick a favorite parent or caregiver—and for that preference to switch back and forth over time. Read on to learn more about why babies sometimes show a preference for one parent and what to do if it happens to you.
Your newborn baby can also form attachments to other people who regularly and lovingly care for them and make them feel safe. These people might include your baby's grandparents, paid carers and older children. Bonding to more than one person helps your baby learn about trust and closeness to people.
There might come a time when your baby starts to behave a little differently. She might be a bit clingier, become fearful of people, or cry when she's left alone. This is known as separation anxiety, and it's a normal part of your infant's development.
As early as three months, babies learn to recognize their parents or primary caregivers. And there staring is their way to communicate. Babies can't quite interact yet for the first few months, so their staring is their way of communicating with you.
Over the first month of life, they quickly learn to prefer faces to other sights. It likely varies from a few days to up to 2 months old for newborns to recognize familiar faces. They do show a preference for family faces to stranger faces at 7 months old,” she says.
Do Babies Like Hugs, Kisses, and Other Signs of Affection? Clearly, there are many different ways in which babies express their affection for their parents and caregivers. But do they enjoy being on the receiving end? In short, yes.
Yes — when you're stressed, your baby senses it. The way you handle your stress determines how your baby will respond to it, too. Keeping a level head when you're feeling anxious and stressed will help keep your baby calm, which in turn, can help you feel less stressed.
Baby may start to know when their father is touching mom's belly. Babies can sense touch from anyone, but they can also sense when touch (and voice) is familiar. And by 24 weeks into pregnancy, dad can usually feel baby kick – but the exact time varies.
1 to 4 Months
During the first few months of their lives, babies are paying attention to the faces around them. “They will start to recognize their parents' faces, along with other caregivers' faces, plus people who are familiar,” says Dr. Hoang.
Emotionally absent or cold mothers can be unresponsive to their children's needs. They may act distracted and uninterested during interactions, or they could actively reject any attempts of the child to get close. They may continue acting this way with adult children.
Research has shown that, during pregnancy, your baby feels what you feel—and with the same intensity. That means if you're crying, your baby feels the same emotion, as if it's their own.
Babies can't cry out loud of course until they're born. In the womb, babies are totally immersed in amniotic fluid, so there is no air in the lungs and air is needed to produce sounds. Once they are born they can fully expand their lungs, taking in air and letting out those first few wonderful cries.