Sometimes when your coworker is rude or aggressive, it's because they feel like no one is listening to them, or no one understands them. As hard as it may be, try to see the situation from their perspective. When you genuinely listen to your coworker because you want to understand them, it shows.
They show negative body language when talking to you
Even when your colleagues don't say anything negative to you, their body language may signify they dislike you. For example, if they keep looking around when you speak in meetings, it might be a sign they're not interested in what you can contribute to the meeting.
They could be succumbing to affinity bias (our tendency to be drawn to people similar to ourselves), have a communication style that clashes with yours, or simply have different expectations for your working relationship, and not be aware that your expectations aren't being met.
Should I quit my job if my coworkers don't like me?
Just because your coworkers don't have the same kind of motivation that you do, that's no reason to quit your job. Unless their inactivity impedes your own work or makes it difficult for you to complete your job tasks, ignore their inattentiveness and reap the rewards of your hard work.
A toxic coworker is considered to be someone who is rude, aggressive, confrontational and disrespectful. They're seemingly always unsatisfied with their position and the job at hand. This trait can express itself through their words, their behavior and body language, or even their productivity and work output.
How do you deal with a coworker you literally can't stand?
Things like:
Start with some empathy. Think about what might be making your coworker act the way that they do — even if the behavior annoys you, you might find you can stomach it a little better if you understand it more.
How do you deal with rude and disrespectful coworkers?
When you need to address rudeness, talk to the offender somewhere private. Stay calm and objective as you outline the facts as you know them, explain the negative impact of his or her behavior and how it made other people feel, and make it clear how you want him to modify his behavior.
Turns out if you're finding yourself less productive at work or just stressed out, in general, there is one simple solution: ignore your co-workers. A study recently conducted showed that taking time to yourself at the office is a quick way to gain a resurgence of energy and momentum for daily tasks.
If the person engages with you, be polite but aim to extricate yourself as soon as you can. Listen to complaints briefly – say a minute or two. And then say, “I'm so sorry, but I need to get (something) done.” Or, “I'm sorry; I'm late to a meeting.” (Never lie; if you have no meeting, go with the “get something done.”)
Examples of disrespect include malicious gossip, threats or intimidation, giving people the silent treatment, and the unwelcome use of profanity. While not unlawful, disrespect saps employee morale and is typically the first step toward harassment and possibly even workplace violence.
They tend to place their needs before others, and they often manipulate people or situations to ensure they receive what they want. Narcissists value admiration and validation- these are crucial parts of their identity, and they can collapse or become depressed when these needs are not met.
Manipulators establish a baseline when they talk to you and ask questions; they're not caring or considerate - they're using your words and body language to detect weaknesses. Then, they will use these for their gain - or simply for their amusement. It's always your fault, and never theirs.
How do you emotionally detach from a toxic coworker?
Detach Emotionally
By choosing to ignore or “reframe” your feelings, you can give yourself some distance from the situation. This allows you to continue working with the coworker, but since you're choosing to avoid reacting to his actions, he will no longer drive you crazy.
