Look him in the eyes and use a controlled, confident, clear voice. For example, if a peer insults you, take a few deep breaths and then calmly say, “Stop putting me down.” With a co-worker, you might try saying, “I don't like or appreciate how you are talking to me and about me.
Sometimes, they could do it because they feel bad about themselves and have low self-esteem, and so they put people down to boost their own confidence. Feeling a need to do so could have many different causes. For instance, maybe they're harshly criticized at home or maybe they have been bullied themselves.
You should remain strong and calm in the face of such emotional manipulation. You can apologize for upsetting them, but you should not back down. #* You can say, “I'm sorry that this is upsetting for you, but when you put me down, I feel the same way that you are feeling now.” Seek help from a trusted authority.
Belittling is the intentional act of making another feel worthless, empty, and dismissed. It is one of many forms of psychological and emotional abuse.
Set boundaries.
"Make good boundaries for yourself," says Berman. "Start taking better care of yourself and make your own self-care more important than pleasing the toxic friend. Say no when she asks you for something that you don't want to give, and call her out when she is mean or critical to you."
If someone looks you up and down, they direct their eyes from your head to your feet, in a rude and superior way and often as though they disapprove of you.
To look down on someone means to consider that person to be inferior or unimportant, usually when this is not true. I wasn't successful, so they looked down on me.
They are insecure. They are jealous. They are trying to feel better about themselves by putting you down. They want to impress you or get your attention.
Insecure people don't think much of themselves, so they use others to make themselves feel better. They may put others down because it makes them feel more powerful and in control, but it can also be a way for insecure people to divert attention away from themselves.
Ignoring how you feel, disregarding your opinion or failing to recognize your contributions. Humiliating or embarrassing you, especially in front of family or friends. Making you the butt of jokes or offhand comments that disparage you and then saying something like, “I didn't mean it.
Looking down:
If a person looks down when speaking to someone they view as more powerful, it could be a sign of submission or shyness. It can also indicate that they are nervous or hesitant about taking part in the conversation and are avoiding eye contact because of it.
Looking up and down at a whole person is usually sizing them up, either as a potential threat or as a sexual partner (notice where the gaze lingers).
It starts with the perception of self. Before we judge others, may we look at ourselves, our strengths, our shortcomings, our reactions, our biases.
The simplest answer to why people avoid eye contact is that they may be nervous or uncomfortable. It makes sense—eye contact invites cooperation and increased interaction from others. If you feel insecure, you don't want people to take a closer look at you.
If you avoid making eye contact with a person, you might be considered to be distracted or even insulting. Sometimes Americans might think you lack confidence or in some cases, that you could be untrustworthy. Therefore, please make good eye contact with your friends and show them your interest!
For those without a diagnosed mental health condition, avoidance of eye contact could be related to shyness or a lack of confidence. Looking someone in the eye while speaking can feel uncomfortable for those without a lot of practice making conversation or who tend to prefer not being in the spotlight.
React to rudeness with kindness.
Don't let a rude person cause you to respond with more of the same hurtful thing. One of the best ways to defuse rude and negative behavior is to stay friendly and positive. This gives the other person a chance to calm down and adjust their behavior to match yours.