You may feel like your partner isn't telling you everything. Or it might seem like there is much you don't know about him (or her), and that he is unwilling to share. If you feel like your partner has a hard time trusting you or telling you the truth (or vice-versa!) it's a serious red flag.
Trust issues often come from early life experiences and interactions. These experiences often take place in childhood. Some people do not get enough care and acceptance as children. Others are abused, violated, or mistreated.
Inconsistency and lack of predictability in their emotions and actions. Wood adds that people who are untrustworthy tend to be inconsistent in their emotions and actions, alongside a lack of predictability.
Can there be love without trust? Love doesn't exist without trust in a real relationship. For starters, if you don't trust your partner, jealousy will likely take over your interactions with that person, making it impossible to believe anything they say.
Anxiety sabotages both people in the relationship by instilling self-doubt and making the anxious person turn against first themselves, then their partner. Trust issues lead to jealousy, anger and resentment. These thoughts, emotions, and beliefs lead to anxiety-driven behaviors.
Someone with trust issues may not be eager to open up or get close to others, even if they long for deep and meaningful relationships. They may have trouble letting themselves go, being vulnerable, and/or being physically intimate.
Trust is broken when a partner put his or her own needs and desires ahead of what's best for you or your relationship. Trust is also damaged when partners break their promises or violate important expectations.
So, the first distinction to make here is, just because you CAN love someone that you don't trust, does not mean you can, let alone should, try to be in a healthy, working, relationship with someone you don't trust. That is the difference, and that is a mistake that is made way too often.
If severe, a lack of trust can cause somebody to feel hopeless, depressed and possibly consider harming themselves or suicide. Low self-esteem and a lack of confidence are also common among people who lack trust. Such people are also likely to bottle up emotions; this is because they feel they cannot confide in others.
Once trust is broken we often experience tremendous anxiety and resentment, which can create a wall between ourselves and our partners. We might withdraw from those close to us and feel quite lonely. Unfortunately, most of us face some form of mistrust or betrayal at some point in our lives.
Recap. Not being able to trust people can be linked to a number of factors. Early childhood experiences, social experiences, adult relationships, personality factors, and mental health conditions can all play a role in undermining trust in other people.
Infidelity does not mean that the love is gone or never existed. The reality is that you can love someone and still cheat on them. In fact, many affairs happen in relationships that are otherwise very happy.