Don't tell friends or family members who are grieving that their loved one has gone to a better place. Never call the death a blessing or speculate that it was that person's time. Avoid saying anything that suggests that the loss of the loved one is a positive thing.
"Talking or being on your phone during the service is one of the most disrespectful things you could do at a funeral," says Myka Meier, Beaumont Etiquette founder and etiquette expert. It's important to be as present as possible. ADVERTISEMENT. "Silence your phone, shut off your phone, or even just leave it behind.
Attending a visitation can be the hardest part for people to attend, because it involves talking to the deceased's family. A good recommendation is to say something simple such as “I am sorry about your loss”, especially if there are many other guests waiting to share their condolences.
The shorter you make this expression, the more informal it is. It was nice to see you again/It was nice to see you/Nice to see you – Again a phrase that can be shortened down. This one is typically used by people who know each other, but don't see each other that often.
Is it ever too late to express your sympathy to someone who has suffered a loss? If you're trying to follow proper etiquette, it's best to send a note, gift or flowers within two weeks of the funeral. However, you can do it later, as long as you feel it would be helpful rather than painful.
In order to cope with goodbyes big and small, we need ways to make ourselves feel better. Listening to music, taking a walk, watching a movie, talking to a friend, writing about your feelings—all of these are small but important techniques for soothing painful feelings.
“The hardest goodbye is the one shared with someone you've spent the most time. The unbearable pain of losing someone woven into the tapestry of who you are is a lingering agony that reminds you with each breath a part of you is missing.
Goodbyes leave a lasting impression. When parting ways with a loved one, a botched farewell can leave both parties feeling uneasy. In professional encounters, the last thing you say is just as important as the first impression.
Honesty is usually the best policy. Be honest, but not hurtful. There is a reason you're deciding to move on and that this person is not “the one.” Just say that. “I don't think you and I are meant to be.” Be mindful of the other person's feelings and avoid saying deliberately hurtful things.
Generally, this emanates from the belief that nails and hair were given to the children by the deceased as a parent and as such they shouldn't be trimmed during the mourning period and after the burial. At least you should wait for 49 days.
Leave the bad luck at the funeral, and bring good luck home. In Chinese culture, red is the color of good luck, and the coin represents fortune. Before guests arrive home, they should eat the candy and spend the coin to seal their luck. Families in other regions may present guests with a red thread instead.